This is the type of shit that justifies abuse and rape culture, you’re part of the problem, She did nothing wrong and he was dangerously psychopathic

Also no, don’t continue the relationship you psychopath, she should hard leave that danger

He said it was fine, she said he could be with others, he could have left at any time, she was open about it

Consensual non monogamy? Homie you’re just crying about polyamory at this point, which was openly communicated, you’re just insecure

Are you just crying that she was doing consensual non monogamy? She even was open about it till he was uncomfy and broke things off with her, she did nothing

So the bf hires someone to make them jealous on purpose out of manipulative spite, and you’re calling her a psychopath too because she did consensual non monogamy?

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Theres some BS here.. this story would not have been 'closed' Each side did something wrong and immature, and the girl is a bit worse

Can’t imagine what branding smells like, also wondering how long your name is lol

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=d6sbPCIEMyI

I’m not gonna jump ship any time don’t worry! I’m finally treated right I am not going no where 😂

I was just having a bit of fun with the warning label meme. I promise not to accidently burn down any hotels!

I bet this is embarrassing for you; I am sorry you are going through it, and in such a public manner. The worst thing he did IMHO was posting this online. The open relationship stuff was mutual. He obviously was seeking validation for his feelings and when he couldn't express himself completely to you, he decided to confide in reddit. People do stupid stuff when they really love someone; I think this qualifies.

Well that's good sometimes girls jump ship when a guy is this committed

He’s dumb but I love him

That’s if I do but I doubt I will tbh. I honestly haven’t been this happy in years. I have the most loving man ever. He’s funny, smart, caring, most loving person I’ve ever met as well. He’s filled with ambition and he’s very optimistic. Think golden retriever personality type.

Same reason why I won't go back to the doctor. I don't trust myself. Either I want none of it... or I want all of it and everything and extra and more and more. Drinking, smoking, drugs. No self control. Good on you for recognizing it.

Best of luck to you

Moral of the story: Boys are dum and he clearly loves you.

I'm an open person in a poly relationship. Bi male, wife is bi. She tends to have more sexual activity (both men and women) than I do. We've been through all the various stages in something like a 15 year relationship. I want to share some thoughts here for OP.

YOU may be bi and have easier connections with women. YOU may be poly. It is common for new poly people to go through periods of jealousy and uncertainty and to struggle there. Open, sincere, and safe conversations can help folks through those stages.

Your partner, this guy, is incredibly toxic, controlling, and abusive. He's highly manipulative and predatory. This dude just reeks of red flags to me in his own words. What's possibly worse? He's completely unaware of those traits and will be resistant to changing them. "I just love her," is really the slippery slope many guys go down in their process of abuse. He made my skin crawl.

Yes, the triad period is fun! Threesomes, other hot chicks! Wow, Dear Penthouse Forums, I never thought it could happen to me! Really intoxicating and enjoyable. The problem is transitioning from there into a more private poly set up, where you also date this woman alone.

Just a brief aside, I'm adamantly kitchen table poly. I don't like dating someone I can't have around my partner. If she feels uncomfortable with us kissing, I'm less into the romance and connection. It's not that she has to like... want... to see that. But if I have my affection or connection it feels like I'm cheating. And this is the same for her. I've met her partners, we've had drinks/dinner together. I kiss her goodbye when she's leaving for a date. It was important for the health of our relationship and to establish feelings of security in each other. The notions of things feeling like they were hidden set off a lot of trauma and bells. But all folks are different in this regard. Some need it to be more hidden.

Yeah, you had a bad reaction to his time with the escort. But consider it was meant to give you that reaction. You reacted the way you were supposed to. And that's really screwed up to me. It's entirely different when you get eased into it, when it's something you're understanding, and done without malicious intent.

This guy is openly saying here that he's ensuring you're anchored and connected to him. He'll go to great lengths to make that happen.

I don't think you're an AH. I think you're confused. I think you made some poor, inexperienced decisions, but it doesn't sound like there was cruelty behind it.

You may not wake up and realize you're a lesbian. You may wake up and realize what he's doing to you... and what he'll do to your kid.

Both of you are bad people

I was thinking about this...well, not THIS...but this in a general sense the other day. I retired a couple of years ago, and was talking to former coworker about people we had worked with in the past. It was never "that guy that wrote the awesome C++ code" or "that amazing database administrator". We referred to damn near everyone in terms of something memorable they did that had absolutely nothing to do with work. There was the alcoholic guy. The guy that committed suicide by filling his pockets with rocks and going "ice fishing". The guy who tried sleeping with his boss's admin, the HR vice president, and his own admin.

The big takeaway: don't worry about working hard to impress people. Just try not to send accidental dick pics and you'll be fine.

I feel like there's gunna be a follow up when you leave him

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Ain't love grand!