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this is so funny

also, vicks vapobath exists?!?!

Also food pantry!

Rice and beans...

Come and see us at r/eatcheapandhealthy and at r/mealprepsunday

Getting food stuff under control might help you feel less stressed

You didn’t have to break up. Should’ve kept her around as you figured things out

You poor thing! Water heaters here in Norway have a mixing valve on top. Internally the heater have to have at least 60c 140F to stop biological activity, but at the top you mix in cold water to keep kids (and buttholes) from being scolded. I would recommend looking into it to see if you have similar features on your boiler.

You should have Taken a "A break, a break from you" Not A break-up

I just want to say you’re being too hard on yourself. I’m not married so I don’t understand the full scope of what you’re feeling but to me the “loser” in this scenario would be the guy who, upon discovering his wife is suddenly disabled, abandons her to her own devices. You did the exact opposite and are, in fact, struggling courageously to provide a life for the woman you love.

While it would be amazing to provide for her that is something you can work on building. We all have to start somewhere. You said yourself that you’ve been making sacrifices and sacrifices require courage. If you have courage it’s impossible to be a loser. Chin up and keep working hard, you’ll get there together and it’ll make it all the nicer when you do.

It's a vickkake

Well, doubble standard is a thing

Relationship advice from redditors is always very interssting

Try to eat your mcds and chill. As long as your car isn't wrecked you'll be fine. Tell the court what happened snd apologize. They will reduce your ticket.

Also not inside any of those three

Apply for food stamps, mortgage/rent, electricity costs etc give bonus points for knocking down your income from work to give you a better chance to apply.

Instead of going to a food joint for a soda stop at a gas station or whatever and get a fountain drink (7/11 has like a 1.29$ size like 44 oz).

Keep your adds you get in the mail. Plan your shopping trips to stores with the sales when possible. Smiths is pretty good with 4 12 packs for 11.99$. Compared to even Walmart @ 5-7$ per pack.

If you shop for higher quality food or Whole Foods type prices, you may have to dumb down the brand names and buy more beans and such.

The being a bad husband part is you (from what you mentioned) put your fast food over your wife’s needs. Also sounds like you’re trying to juggle too much, so give yourself some breathing room. Sounds like you may need to put your own business on pause while you sort things out. Try looking for a job that you have skills in that will better help pay bills.

Your wife can look up “data entry remote” etc. on linked in, the local job connect (the state building that helps people look for work). She should also try to get disability. Disability and food stamps make the other easier to get.

Sounds like you’re having a hell of a time with it all, I hope it gets better for you man.

I’m going to tell a very pathetic story about myself, in hopes that it will make you feel a little better. I drive a big truck but I’ve driven it for years and I’ve had my license for years too. One day, while waiting for my friend in a Ross parking lot, for some reason that to this day, don’t understand, I decided to pull up next to one of the only cars in the whole parking lot to wait. There were tons of empty spaces I could’ve pulled into and I wouldn’t have been near any other cars at all. But that would make too much sense. I noticed my friend pulling into the lot on the opposite side from where I was so I get excited and throw my truck in drive, thinking I would drive up to where he was. For some completely idiotic reason, I take the SHARPEST left turn when I began pulling out of the parking spot and literally take the entire back end off of a relatively new Nissan Altima. I didn’t even make it 3 feet from my parking spot without completely demolishing this girls car. Luckily I had full coverage insurance and I left the girl a note on a paper plate. I was surprised to receive a call a few hours later from a young girl who didn’t seem furious at all, like I had been anticipating. Instead, she was confused and told me she hadn’t had her license very long and had no clue how anything works as far as insurance, etc when a car accident happens. I walked her through it and my insurance paid for 100% of the repairs (plus I had a $0 deductible which was awesome) so in the end, it just turned out to be a really embarrassing story that I look back at and laugh. My friend thinks I’m an idiot but he laughs about it too. Sometimes these things happen.. they may not be quite as drastic as my situation, but nevertheless, don’t be too hard on yourself! Shit happens. Most of the time it’ll turn into a funny story later in life

If you’re counting the pennies to that extent - you should be taking a sandwich to work. There really is no need to spend on fast food that is not only unhealthy but also expensive and not filling long term. You can buy multipacks of soda and take one to work.

Surely that’s gotta cause a bit of uh “discomfort” in uh…ya nether regions…

...you went to a fast food place, only to get soda?

Buy some food articles at the grocery and brown bag it, with occasional eating out. You will be amazed at how much cheaper it is.

Find your local food bank and get groceries.

Oh yeah. Chubbyemu is a Dr that does videos on things like. "What happens to your body if you eat Tide Pods"

Financial issues are extremely stressful and put a huge strain on people's lives in general, don't beat yourself up for it. (Won't really help the situation)

Like another commenter said if you and your wife have web dev skills I'd try going that route while you build up your business. Also idk what country you live in but do some research on government subsidies (food stamps etc...), those should at least be able to put food on the table for both of you no matter what.

And food stamps! Those really help out when you struggleling

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