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Inosmelllikecow t1_j656cl1 wrote

No sympathies for you. Your boss propped you up, helped you develop and let you vent (aka a better boss than most), and you turned around by stabbing her in the back by whining to her boss because she couldn't get over COVID fast enough for your taste? Now you're discovering that you aren't the great employee you thought you were and don't like that you aren't coddled anymore...woof.

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FuriouslyListening t1_j654w2s wrote

The phase everyone knows is blood is thicker than water. What most people don't know is that is neither the whole statement nor is that the intended meaning. The original statement was "Blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb."

The short explanation is that the friends you make by choice, are closer and more important to you than merely being related to a person by accident of birth.

Fuck your bio family. Go outside and find your real family and stop worrying what those people you have to live with think about you.

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CharDeeMac567 t1_j6549hf wrote

Yeah, I would just recommend not beating yourself up too much about this since you didn't know -- and couldn't know -- what would happen. It's only through encountering and experiencing these very negative outcomes that we learn to act and behave differently.

If you're brave enough, you could reach out to your old boss to explain your error and to try to repair that relationship. That could be a very scary but healing experience.

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Shazzam001 t1_j65455x wrote

One day you'll move out, you'll find your tribe, you'll find people who love you for who you are and you'll be able to buy your own goddamned hair clips.

You're going to do great things and your narcistic family will one day be something in your past.

Keep up with the therapy and working on yourself for the rest of your life so you can break the cycle of selfish idiots!

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CharDeeMac567 t1_j652ywf wrote

This manager could have just been looking for an excuse to fire your boss so I'm not sure to what degree you should be blaming yourself for the whole ordeal.

There was no way for you to predict how this would be handled and the manager of your boss handled things terribly based on what you've shared here.

There are probably other factors and context related to this decision that you just won't be able to get much insight into. How come you've leapt so quickly to the idea that your boss's firing was 100% on you and not a combination of different factors including the higher level manager being some big jerk?

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