Holy shit this exists. Cringe is strong in that sub

I used to work for a guy that had a stick so far up his ass he couldn't slouch- didn't cuss, didn't joke, everything was dead serious business.

One day I went into his office and said "The network is going to go down for 20 minutes during lunch. Someone mucked up the firmware on the firewall and I have to reflash it."

He stared at me for 10-15 seconds...I was waiting to get yelled at for someone else's mistake....but then he just went "OK. Let me know when it's done."

Later that day I was in a meeting with some co-workers, he walked in, and blurted out "Hey...did you find out who fucked up that firmware?"

I was shocked...he never used that word in the office the entire 10 years I was there. I blinked a couple of times and said "Excuse me?"

He got a bit huffy, then in a forceful voice retorted "Yeah, I want to know who...in your words...fucked up the software. If we're talking like that in the office, I'm joining in." (I'm going to note he looked physically PAINED to say the f-word. I honestly think he's never said it before.)

Again, I blinked a couple of times and replied "I actually said 'MUCKED up the firmware.'"

We just stared at each other for a while...him looking at a room full for 10 people...and he mumbled "Oh...my mistake..." as he shuffled out of the room.

just wondering.

100% the boss was fishing for an excuse. Unless they're buddy buddy, you don't randomly ask about your superior's performance without there being an ulterior motive.

I'd advise against contacting her anyways. She's probably looking for a job now and picking up the pieces and there's nothing she can gain from being on good terms with OP. The trust is broken even if OP wasn't malicious considering now he's known to superiors as a blabbermouth.

Take this as a lesson learned. I don’t know how long you’ve been in the workforce and how many bosses you’ve had in the past, but it sounds like your previous boss was a really good one and you completely threw her under the bus.

You said your boss helped you out a lot when you were having tough times, but then when she was going through tough times instead of being supportive, you complained about it to her boss, which at the very least would have gotten her in some kind of trouble.

I’m not going to beat you up or anything because it looks like you get it. Now what you need to do is use what your boss taught you and take ownership of your position. You don’t have her to hold your hand anymore so now you need to step it up and put what she taught you to use.

Also as a side note I agree with the new boss. Telling your boss a problem without offering any solutions is not “addressing a problem” it’s just complaining. I gain nothing if people come to me to complain about stuff, if you have the problem then you have some burden of responsibility to suggest a solution.

I have people come to me with issues that not only are they perfectly able to think up a solution for, but they even have the authority to act on it and fix the problem. If I just took everyone’s problems onto my plate I’d spend my whole day doing everyone else’s job and not get MY stuff done. Be self sufficient and take initiative!

Good luck OP I wish you the best!

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OP never said she didn't, even hoped she'd see this. Y'all are asking for a kid to stand up to her verbally abusive parents, and yet also thinking one shouldn't. Neither should.

why dont u go to the fucking police

Who told you not to, the shitty manager man? I've been through layoffs and I think it's kind of traumatic to be let go and then not have any interaction with coworkers if you were on friendly terms beforehand.

Well for starters, from what it sounds like, she definitely has long covid. From someone who struggled with long covid for over a year, I can tell you it feels like hell. Your brain is foggy to the point where you have trouble remembering an idea long enough to finish an entire sentence. When I had to read a paragraph, I could barely remember the beginning of the paragraph when I got to the middle of it. I struggled with doing simple math (and I was fine with advanced algebra my entire life) because I simply cannot even remember what I'm doing half way through. At some point I feel like I'm losing my mind.

What the above means is that doing well in a job search is basically impossible. I highly doubt you would be able to present your best foot forward in an interview when you struggle with holding onto ideas. She's probably already stressed enough trying to hang onto her own mind and now you've added more stress to that by putting her through a job search, in this economy.

You may have feel unsupported at your work, and that's frustrating, I get that. But you said yourself this is someone who came in, made improvements, promoted you, and helped improved overall performance. Clearly, she wasn't feeling like herself. Instead of just venting your frustration to her boss, you could have given her more benefit of the doubt and just a few more times to reach out.

But you didn't, you got her fired by going over her head to her boss. You're now "repenting", when your OWN job was at risk. This entire thread is about yourself and you're just looking for sympathy for someone to tell you that it's not your fault, otherwise, why would you not have posted about this when you got her fired, before you realized your own job was at risk?

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I think you should just own up to the fact that you screwed up and be more considerate next time.

Fuck around you going to find out.

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What field are you working in ?

these posts never get old, even though I see one like every week

> Since my Olenna is younger her birthday was two weeks before mine

Wow, this doesn't make sense at all. Also nobody in your family seems to understand birthday cakes if they think it is just for one person. And your parents only put you in therapy because the school forced them???

Seriously, the only fuckups here are your parents. Do you have anyone else to support you, e.g. a grandparent or a close friend? It sucks to have family like yours, but you should know that you can build close relationships with other people and that you are under no obligation to keep in contact with your parents once you move away.

Happy birthday!!!! You deserve cake and more!!! Harder said than done but don't let those people determine your worth! ❤️

I don't mean to come off as harsh but you're either lying to yourself or are really naive. But like I said, her boss was probably looking for a reason to fire her and you served it up to him on a silver platter so its not like its entirely your fault. But now you know, and yes, it is Karma since it sounds like she was a pretty decent boss

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It is law in most places that sentimental and non-valueable personal items be returned to the storage unit management.

Things like bills, mail, photos, legally, all must returned, and you can collect them.

This doesn't help with the valuable art or furniture, but at least you should be able to recoup your sentimental stuff like the photos.

PLEASE reach out to the storage and let them know there are those things in the unit. They can relay that info to the buyer, and they can set your stuff aside for you to collect.

I'm very familiar with large company whose CEO regularly says that "this will be the money shot!" and it's an inside joke among us all now. iykyk

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And r/narcissisticparents too

You probably did deep down, but its also not fully your fault. Her boss wouldn't bring up performance without looking for an excuse, and you should know better than to go behind her back and shit on her.