Thank you! I am reaching out for legal advice.

Look man, teenagers masturbate all the time. Guys hammer on it, girls rub it out, it happens. It's not a huge deal. Shit almost everyone has a story about being caught or almost caught by their parents from their high school years.

And you're not the first person to do something stupid because you're horny. Ultimately, he either didn't know or has chosen to ignore it since he hasn't acted differently around you. Don't like do it again, but it's not the end of the world.

Maybe I can interest you in a book given to me by the Catholic titled "You're a sinner and that's pure evil coming out of you."

Your brother was probably masturbating and thinking the same thing. Dude.... chill. All dudes masturbate. Everyone knows it.

Try not to be disgusting about it and you're fine. Like, don't Louis CK anyone or anything, just try to have some discretion.

Snapchat just sucks. The photo quality is terrible compared to just using the stock camera app

Well, hope you learned that people aren't what they seem to be so you can be more cautious in your approach going forward at least.

Either way, it's not really advised behaviour to be that frank about your boss to her boss, it's a bad look in any case. You basically snitched on her, regardless of what your intentions are, and that's just not smart. I'm sure we've all heard of how the saying about snitches go.

Like I said, in the future, if this happens again and you genuinely want to help your boss, don't bring her up in the conversation. Express to him that you're doing your best but the department is lacking resources, and see if there might be alternative solutions involved without bringing others in the conversation. It's corporate 101 really.

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News flash, teenagers are horny and jerk off. You're not the first, last, or special.

Acting like it's some horrible thing is the cringe.

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Me me me me me!! Like a toddler. My deathly ill great boss trying to recover from long term Covid wasn’t paying attention to ME! But what about ME and MY NEEDS. Ugh you’re a user

Okay, "someone" had to deal with them.

If these issues were to remain, and she had gotten better, would she have dealt with them given how she was the one that fixed things initially?

Are there HR resources at your company? I'm not saying to GO to HR, but maybe look at up and see if they have support for Long Covid and other health issues, as a lot of company actually do have those resources. Suggest them to her politely?

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And sure, even if you WERE to have good intentions by speaking to her boss, does venting EVERYTHING sound like a good idea? Instead of venting about your boss, ask him explicitly to see if there might be more support available in the pipeline without looping your boss in the conversation. There's really no reason to speak about your boss to her boss unless you were trying to get her into trouble. There are multiple ways of presenting the message and you chose the worst one.

I’m so sorry. I was bullied and fat shamed by family growing up and it stayed with me for decades. You are more than your weight or shape. One day you will look back on these moments and realize how wrong they were for acting like this.

I don’t know what to tell you if even his version of events made it clear he was manipulating her in the relationship. You’re being very smelly and defending abuse, and it’s pretty in your face abuse. You don’t have an argument, sorry you’re just on the wrong side of morality here?

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Happy Belated Birthday!! You sounds like an amazing, strong, level headed human. I’m so sorry that your family is treating you like this, it’s not fair and it’s so wrong.

As someone who has been there, I just want you to know it gets better. Once you are able to get out you’ll have the chance to surround yourself with people who prioritise you and care about you. They will be the “family” you choose. You will feel loved, and happy and fulfilled.

Wishing you all the best for future birthdays filled with cake, love and being spoilt rotten!

It's tough ngl

I was raised by narcissist substance abusers and developed A LOT of bad habits/survival strategies, but this was the most pernicious. Not saying you or are parents are narcissists, but my apple didn't fall far from that tree...

I would strongly recommend finding a DBT therapist to help you work out your inner dialog

In the short term, start doing things that make you respect yourself (i.e. dont tell anyone, or expect praise). You can't care about anyone more than yourself. Literally. Anything more is codependent. Your own self esteem IS the bar

I'm pulling for you, you've got a long, tough slog but you're young and asking the right questions. At least the questions I wish I had asked when I was 17 lol

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You didn’t fuck up, OP. While I hope that your family comes to a realization that all their children should be valued and loved, it won’t work out well for you to pin your worth on their opinions or actions. I am so excited for you to make new friends and find your people. Found family can be a wonderful. Belated happy birthday, OP.

Why would you push someone on anything like that? It's not your business. They may have private reasons to do or not do a thing. Leave people alone about their choices about things that don't impact you.

My own family has a history of horrible toe fungus. So, I have a habit of not being barefoot because I don't want to get a toe fungus from anyone. Someone else might have a toe fungus and not wish to spread it or have others see it.

You also live in a world full of creepy men. Blame the creeps. If you encounter any, raise hell at them for making women distrustful and wary.

And yeah, you tifu.

TSA has already seen your ding dong before you even get to the gate.

You keep telling yourself that but you're working in a corporate world. This isn't a charity.

You told your boss' boss that your boss isn't performing. How in any way do you expect that to help her? Furthermore, you were explicitly asked by him (the boss' boss) about any issues you may have with her. Are you so naive to think that it is a "positive" sign?

Let's face it, you got frustrated and threw her under the bus, hoping that'd make your life better, without a second thought as to how it may potentially influence hers until it directly impacted yours. If you can't even own up to your selfishness then you'll just do it again in the future. You're still trying to excuse yourself in this case so I don't see any real self reflection going on.

How is this your fuck up? Don't doubt you got depression. With parents like that. But also be glad they don't chain you. Doesn't sound too far fetched.

I would have been like,"Yea so? Who hasn't seen me naked?" then they have nothing.

Oh boy. Karma. You got what you deserve.

Hey no shame, just figure your stuff out and learn to drop a joke after two strikes