Always!!!

No you got that correct. I was on FMLA for three months. However he did receive 2 weeks of paternal leave and it was paid if I recall correctly. He ended up quitting and took out 13k from his 401k to spend time with us while he studied to get into a different field but even then I recall being the one up at night with our child while he slept. He helped. Don’t get me wrong. But he didn’t help in the aspect that I wish he would have. I just need to get over it. It’s not something that’s bothered me for a long time. I think it was just the fact that he was boasting about all that he provided for our child and it made me feel like he thinks he is the one who provides everything.

There have been money issues in our relationship where he’s had to cover some of the bills that are my responsibility. He pays for all of the rent which is quite a bit but I pay everything else. At times he has had to buy groceries and pay for my car payment and such when I don’t get my hours at work. He’s held that over my head many times and I think it’s just gotten to me and when he says things that make himself look good I get defensive about myself because it makes me feel discounted. It’s a me issue and I acknowledge that though.

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I mean, notwithstanding that she admitted that specific part isn't true, newborn phase is gonna be like 15% of the first three years. She's wrong no matter what, even if it's an exaggeration

Not the best advice, but do you have a hot water bottle? It should help ease the pain if on your stomach or between your thighs.

In another comment, you indicate that you went on FMLA while he worked (unless I'm reading that wrong). Perhaps that's why you took on the brunt of the child-care (again unless I'm misunderstanding)?

In any case, the fact that you're reaching back 7 years to get upset seems to indicate that there is a larger problem here.

I think it's just my verbiage written here. Hard to provide the inflection used in tone via writing. Albeit, I am pissed but it's because the in person interaction had such a "We don't give a damn, just put it down!" attitude. Could be due to compassion burnout or overwork I couldn't say but none-the-less their attitude is what prompted my response. Your practice might be much better, and I don't mean to say that all Vet offices behave in such a manner. I'm sorry if you felt this was a personal attack on the industry as a whole.

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The standard IDEXX SNAP panel test (which was what was used here) has an extremely high rate of false positives and was not repeated nor followed up with the typical IFV test, as they full stopped after the In-House test with a recommendation of euthanizing which I declined of course. I'd understand if they ran both tests and came upon a discordant result or True Positive but they outright declined to even discuss it as an avenue.

The kitten is less than 12 weeks old and too my understanding at this point (if positive) could result in a Abortive infection and allow the little guy to kick it. As I said, he is now healthy, gained a bunch of weight, URI gone and is a little menace.

My actions of coming at them in such a manner was the complete unwillingness to even have such a discussion to begin with as the kitten was not "Knocking on heaven's door" by any measure at the time of initial diagnostics by their own account. It's not so much I am asking for free service, I am asking they do what they should have done from the get-go.

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Edit: Forgot to address one point, putting the kitten down was not presented as an option, it was forcefully recommended as the only choice. Which had I done that, this now-healthy kitten would have lost it's life in vain.

I was really already checked out at that point, I wasn’t really in control anymore.

Nope, I’m lucky I think that is a danger with crazy doses. But maybe it’s only common if you take crazy doses repeatedly

I'm so sorry! That's awful ):

I was up with our rambunctious child AND was trying to maintain the house. *facepalm

That makes sense...acid doesn't make people violent or destructive as a general rule, but it can make you do some dumbass shit because common sense goes bye bye.

Someone froze all our cutlery in a block of ice as a prank once and my housemate had to stop me from putting it in the microwave to thaw it out lol...except he was tripping hard as well so all he could do was say MICROWAVE BAD over and over till I got it. And that was on a couple tabs, 10 would break my brain! You're lucky you got out of it aa well as you did all things considered!

Butters! You don’t punch a guy in the dick!

Lol. Never trust the "take more" thoughts.

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That’s what I did. Thank you for the advice. He is definitely upset and I can’t blame him for that. We’ve been together for a decade now and I just feel awful for saying what I said.

Maybe I’m not explaining things very well. When I first had our child seven years ago we both worked the same shift, day shift. That isn’t really relevant to todays issue though.

He works thirds now so his sleep schedule is off. He just naturally stays awake all night even on the weekends then sleeps during the day because that’s what his body has accustomed to.

And while I understand that, I was just frustrated that he couldn’t force himself to sleep last night while we all slept so that he could spend the day with us as a family but I know that his body has just acclimated to a different sleeping pattern. I just took my bitterness out on him for me feeling lonely today I think

This is why I’m scared to take acid. Do you have any residual problems from the trip?

When I had our child we were both working. I was on FMLA for three months then went back to work part time while he paid for the majority of the bills but now we both work full time and I’m a full time student. He works 40 hours a week and I avg around 30-40 depending on client call offs. He works third shift so his sleep pattern is awake all night and sleep until our kid gets home from school then he goes back to bed when I get home from work.

How did your child maintain the house?

Yeah I think I had a blast, I don’t remember too much. Which I’m thankful for, there’s only so many memories of being naked and insane in front of people before it sours the whole memory

Yeah I’m thankful the only thing hurt was my pride. I realized when I sobered up I could’ve run into traffic or something. Haven’t really done any more acid since this story because of that

SNAPS are accurate and positive tests are usually repeated 2-3 times in clinic AT NO CHARGE TO YOU. Just to make sure it's not a false positive. Cats with FeLV can lead normal lives, but can infect other cats. Thier lives are often shorter than healthy cats. It's likely based on the severity of the URI in combination of FeLV euthanasia was presented as an option. Many kittens pass in the night because of this, it's fairly common and FeLV complicates everything.

This whole exchange has you sounding like a huge AH. Hope the clinic refuses to work with you should you use this attitude with them. People like you make our job so much harder. Also sounds like you called an unloaded on the first person who answered which would have been a receptionist. Huge AH. That clinic won't be paying for anything with your attitude. Maybe an additional SNAP, IF you're polite. Welcome to taking in sick animals! They cost money and can have long term illness!

15+ years licensed veterinary technician

Was he the sole provider while you were talking care of the baby or were you both working at that time? Was he waking up at 3:30 cuz he’s working long shifts or was he just up playing video games late into the night hence why he couldn’t wake up

Ultimately yeah though, if they fail to remedy it I will be forced to a new office it's just my selection is extremely limited.