Recent comments in /f/tifu

Kyuthu t1_j6b43x2 wrote

Yeah she's very specifically said so she has to go through it all again with them too. There's asking for help and advice on complicated issues, and then there's just saying things you don't need to share to make yourself feel better, at the cost of their opinion of your partner changing and them having a go at her later also.

There's a line between the two that you should try not to cross to prevent damaging your own relationship. Their one does not sound good or healthy. You don't need to tell your family and friends every single little mishap or argument or thing your partner as ever said.

She's said one line accidentally, apologised, but he's gone off to his family's, telling them all about it and she's going to have to deal with their opinions and comments on it later. That's not good. He should really be talking to her about it.

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Whitestride t1_j6b2tj2 wrote

If she is willing to breakup with you for anything at all, even a small mistake, I'd SWIFTLY move the fuck on.

That with other things you've mentioned makes me think she does it to control you, other wording would be manipulation.

Her showing you her texts, for one doesn't mean she couldn't delete things, or alter them entirely to look okay, but it also opens the door for her to casually ask to see yours, which isn't fair. If ANYONE asks to read your shit or have your phone in general they themselves are unhappy and are wanting to find a reason to justify it, without actually realizing they're just unhappy cause THEY are unhappy.

Not saying what you did is okay, but like others said you're young and honestly that isn't much to harm a relationship tbh, an apology and saying what went down should be enough to trust you that you aren't like that, if she ain't gunna trust ya ehhhh I'd move on, she seems very manipulative and controlling which can be yikes, as your needs will most likely be second to hers period.

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crispy1989 t1_j6b2lqm wrote

> I don't want to be a man like this.

Hate to break it to you, but an individual is defined by their actions - you are a man like this. But you're young, and there's plenty of time to change. Stop hiding, from yourself and others; come to terms with your decisions, admit to them, and accept the consequences (and no, the consequences won't be fun). And if you're sincere about your desire to change, keep that in mind next time you feel the impulse to flirt while already committed.

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bakinbaker0418 t1_j6b1ui1 wrote

You are a fucking legend my friend. I've done a lot of acid myself and pretty high doses but never thought about taking 10 100ug tabs in a setting. I've taken a few gel tabs and a 100ug paper in one night and thought I was losing my mind. I laid down on the floor to listen to music and lay with my dog about 5 minutes later I thought I fainted and ended up on the floor (I've done that a few times on shrooms) then realized I just needed to sit the fuck and try to watch something

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K1ll3r_7hr1ll3r t1_j6b1oqm wrote

Don't want to be that guy, but 2 things wrong here.

First, jealousy has NO place in a relationship. If you're jealous, you never had them in the first place.

Second, never, ever, let a controller into the relationship. It's 50/50, or nothing at all.

With that said, you shouldn't have talked to that person in the first place, especially in any way that would be considered "cheating" or "hiding" anything. That parts unfortunately on you. Yes you are very young and don't have any experience in the real world of relationships either, but we all learn with time.

Idk your particular history with your girl, but here's some food for thought. Find someone who is on your page, has your back, and loves you unconditionally. Someone you enjoy your time with. Interests don't need to be an exact mirror either learn from each other, but most importantly, be kind, honest, and love one another.

Ultimatums are a big red flag. If you hear one, run, unless it's a major issue, crime, endangering each others health, whether emotional or physical, or anything along those lines. For example, I'm an ex-addict, 5 years into recovery, and my wife and I are best friends. But we agreed that if I were to even slip once, it's over. Not good for her or the kids. That alone keeps me clean.

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Plus_Inevitable_771 t1_j6b1d30 wrote

Problem is... even if you guys get past this. I can promise you. He will never forget it. I cant shake what my wife said to me even after 5 years. I would recommend a bit of therapy to talk it out properly. It is not easy to forget or forgive something like that.

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