That is why she was there. Next thing you know you will be in a cult

You need serious help. Please talk to a therapist. I know you think this is as real as anything else in your life.

Let's just say this. Let's assume it is real. Even still, talking to a therapist should be in order to heal the trauma you went through and sets up a more convincing argument during litigation. There would be no downsides.

Your first and biggest fuck-up was deciding chips and salsa is a movie and/or sexy time snack. What the actual fuck?

You definitely need help from a mental health professional if you believe this to be true. You didn't get radiated

Was it "THEY GOT THE MUSTARD OUUUUUUUUUUUUUT"

Yeah, maybe you shouldn't have said that, but maybe he shouldn't have made a comment about buying his kid stuff in the middle of you having a bad day either. Maybe an ESH situation simply because I can see how you'd say something you regret later in the heat of the moment.

When we did it, they’d make an announcement when we showed up for morning muster (Navy). You weren’t allowed to leave till you peed. We would literally have to stay in an area drinking water till it happened. Weren’t allowed to go work till we did, couldn’t have contact with our buddies who already did and we’re allowed to leave. Only knew about 2 people, not in my department, who failed in my three years on my boat. Know people smoked or did limes now and again, but don’t think it was a huge problem. Think it was just precautions so it didn’t become a problem as they probably learned their lesson about being lax early on.

Every kid I've talked to growing up had their parents argue over that, break up, and then pretty much make their kid's lives worse over these small petty things.

Like I said, every couple can work something out to be most content. Just figure out how to be happy, for their sake and their kid's sake. In the first world we have so much, and we take it all for granted. It's so stupid when parents are arguing nonstop over how many dishes were done or how many diapers were changed, who works and who doesn't, who earns the most money. And every kid with single parents.

Got out of the navy in 2002. We had to line up and E-6 or higher had to stand next to urinal and watch the urine come out, then immediately took cup from you. Had one in school (funny guy, looked like Hank Rollins), always start singing about how he loved being on “Cock Watch”. Can’t remember how many times I had to do it in training, but only had to once when I got to the fleet. Was told they choose a number 0-9, and those whose SSN ended with that digit had to pee. Was told I must have the same last digit as the CO.

Acid is a really strong ass drug, alcohol and bath salts are controllable, but cid is one drug I can’t be in control of. Glad you ended up being ok omg

Pretty good story of how you transformed into a glass of orange juice. Careful that you don't spill!

ok, I appreciate the insight thankyou. even if it wasnt ionizing radiation, there was absolutely the van, and my perceptual awareness got incredibly fucked up, fuzzy and distorted without ingesting any substances that I am aware of . It may have been an electric current or similar, I genuinely dont know. This is part of posting this here, if people who are actually familiar with that sort of tech may help to place parameters on what I experienced.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=aD-m0q5J2fQ

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hey! If you specify which part reads as particularly ficticious , maybe I can explain myself in more detail . zzz

May I ask, What kind of club is it??

Idk why you're getting downvoted for a normal reaction to previous stuff, that you're being very open and honest about and acknowledging was a bad thing. I swear people see a downvoted post and just base their final opinion on what the majority think.

That all sounds normal, either have a good long chat with him about it and explain what's happened and why, and apologise... or maybe therapy if you're not sure where it definitely came from. You wanted to spend time with him, you can't because of his shifts, but today both missing him and being alone combined with him saying something that made you feel like you didn't provide enough made you overly sensitive, (because he's held money over your head in the past so this seems normal, but could also be your own overly high expectations of yourself and insecurities) and in the moment you said something you shouldn't have about him being absent in the past also.

These things bothered you in the past and maybe you didn't address them enough, but the real issue seems to be that you're ashamed about your money contributions, lonely and he's always asleep because of work. You want more time with him by the sounds of it and to discuss and come to terms with the difference in money.

If you've got friends and hobbies I'm betting you're mostly fine, but not fully with him always awake at different times from you. If you don't have these other support systems, and all you have on the weekends is your kid and a sleeping husband... I'm betting the loneliness is actually killing the relationship and your mental health slowly. Idk what the solution for that is, you probably need to work that out together. You're way more likely to snap and say things like this if you're lonely and getting depressed though, and this sounds like a possibility from what you've described.

If he's oversharing with family and that's coming back in a negative way on you, you probably also need to talk about that. There's asking for advice on complicated things and then oversharing for validation and hurting your partner in the process. He needs to make sure he's doing the former and not the latter.

"Mä mokasin firman juhlissa" club. Most of the members are finns but I hope that is no problem for you.

Forgot to add, op didn't mention she was a breastfeeding mom. I was just throwing that out there, in case she was one.

Hmmm... She didn't specify whether she was a stay-at-home mom or not. If she was a stay-at-home mom, I suppose there's nothing wrong with it being mostly her... However, if she's also working too, (which nowadays a good portion of mothers are) then that's what's wrong with it. If both parents are working then he should have gotten his ass up in the middle of the night and helped too!

And breastfeeding moms have it worse, not only do they go to work, during breaks, they have to pump their milk for the baby, instead of enjoying and relaxing their break.

Yes, the solid advice is go and get more professional help. I actually worked in radiation protection for a few years. You were not irradiated by a mysterious gang in a van. You were not targeted. You need help.

bruv 🤣

thats hilarious and I can absolutely appreciate how it would read that way. altered the title to suit as well.

but seriously even if this appears unbelievable I figure if the right person comes across this post to give me some actually solid advice it will be worth it. :)

im amazed you had a measurement, last time i did that shit i was given an eye dropper, then told i was given the wrong one and may have taken too much. was a crazy ~36 hours. Luckily i had enough supervision to avoid your ending.

No malice intended, but you sound like my wife, who will bite off her nose to spite her face and has a very sharp tongue. I can’t tell you how many times she’s hurt me because she’s taken something I’ve said the wrong way.

I suggest that you talk to him and give him a heartfelt apology. Tell him that you were upset and why you were upset and that you reacted without thinking. And that you’re very sorry. That you do appreciate all that he does.

You both need to remember that you’re a team. It’s supposed to be the two of you against the world and that everyone contributes in their own way.

Good luck