such communist student groups are on the watchlists of your country's secret service. nothing will come from it, but your name might end up on that list as well.

also: young people endorsing communism, it boils down to two things:
a) being unaware of what communism did to the people
b) claiming Marxism is different and those countries weren't using "real" communism

OP you are fine. Don't listen to anybody here, your relationship is normal. Perfect? No. But these things you work out. Ignore the people saying its toxic, or you should run etc etc. Stay with your husband, talk things through if needed and raise the kids. This is not internet worthy and handle your family. You'll be ok!

Reddit is going to insult you for being a stay at home mom, or one who works and everything in between. People on here are trash or idiots. Including me! Apologize, hug and try and make peace. Cheers!

So, what’s your YouTube channel?

Agreed, but we don't know if he's bad mouthing her yet. And honestly, she said some hurtful shit that she knows she should apologize for and she still hasn't.

I agree with you. OP is speculating, unless he's consistently done this before. Also, OP hasn't apologized yet. Her husband is sitting there stewing on the untrue and hurtful comment - I would need some space from her too.

With a ton of respect for your superhuman ability as a single mom, OP and her husband are in a totally different situation. Using SHOULD seems super judgemental towards the husband, when it sounds like he's contributing. Just because it's not what you and OP wish, it doesn't mean he isn't doing a lot. What should have happened and what should happen now is for the couple to sit and discuss what they want from each other in the child rearing area. Perhaps, when he wakes up, OP's husband take them ice skating and then out for hot chocolate in a totally cool family outing. IDK and neither does anyone else on Reddit.

Peace.

She should stick to the porn music. My coworker made fucking bank off of that. He does security now so that he's not bored

What did your parents say?

You should probably get help about your recreational drug use...it has definitely spilled over and impacted your life

Maybe you deserve to deal with some shit? Take your lumps. What you said to him would have been a relationship ender for me personally. He may never come back from that comment emotionally even if he comes back physically.

Edit (addition): you don't need to get over it. You should think about how each of you contributes to the duchess of raising your child. Plenty of people argue about not having enough to make ends meet, but it seems like your husband is working to make that one less item to stress over.

Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra

https://open.spotify.com/album/5jJJEuOfBSCjFRcIK84Dr3

This provides a lot more context. Your original post is missing a lot of information, and I bet you're still holding on to more.

Either way, I understand it's difficult in the moment to get frustrated when someone doesn't meet your expectations, but you have to understand everyone has limitations. Also, it sounds like your husband has done a ton of work to provide for you.

1. You weren't able to meet your financial obligations and he picked up your slack.
2. He sacrificed his retirement funds and had to pay taxes on the early withdrawal of them to spend time with you when his job didn't provide enough paternal leave.
3. He used his time to study for a new industry to hopefully make more money (perhaps, b/c your contributions are not consistent or you both decided that your total family income needs to increase). IDK.

It's not a race to provide for your child. You both are contributing in very different, but important ways.

Now, this is not to say that he shouldn't praise you for all the hands on work in raising a child. This may be the issue. Just apologize sincerely. But maybe say that it would be nice to be recognized for your work too, if that's what caused it.

Something tells me this comment is just the tip of the iceberg on what your problems as a couple are. Couples counseling might not be a bad idea.

While I agree with almost everything you've said, people who were assaulted 'lying' about cheating isn't that unusual. Particularly women are frequently faced with ideas that it's their fault for the assault or asked for it etc. Means sometimes the shame after the assault can lead you to feel like you've cheated, though total nonsense. Plus some partners/men etc think they have been cheated on, even if it was assault. Not saying that's what's happened here, I don't know, but it is possible.

In this situation though, regardless of 'truth', as you said, no trust left, and you can't have a relationship without trust.

What's the alien sex album? I kinda wanna hear that

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Yeah! Being a hero can be exhausting.

I think this is so common, even when we try to divide the child rearing, it always felt like I was taking most of the emotional labor. For our first child, also 7 years ago, we both worked full time but i breastfed so it didn’t make sense that he would get up in the night but I still felt like because of that, during the day he should have picked up more slack. Maybe he did but being overwhelmed and exhausted makes it hard to see. For a couple of years we decided that he should stay at home because I made more money and childcare was astronomical. Somehow I was still handling the little things like doctors appointments, enrolling in school, making grocery lists etc and working 50 hours a week. My boyfriend is a great father and we have 2 kids now, been together 14 years but my kids are harder on me, demand more of my attention and expect more from me than they do from him. It can feel more like I’m carrying the brunt of the child rearing even if he is active and present the emotional labor is not divided. It seems like you’re overwhelmed, over worked and depressed? If that is the case you should sit down and think about what specific issues caused what you said and offer him a sincere apology and explanation. That’s the best you can do and go from there.

>she has a whole album about having sex with aliens.

I'm going to need the name of that album.

People don’t hold on to contacts of people who assaulted them.

Your GF cheated, got caught, and then lied about it to cover her ass. That’s a pretty fucked up thing to do. It also shows no remorse nor consideration for you.

I would leave her if I were you. If you feel compelled to stay, you’re going to have to come up with some way to get past this issue.

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you want him to forgive you? Say this.

"Im sorry. I made your statement about me. I will do better and stop trying to make it all about me. "

I say this because you sound exactly like my first wife. Everything I did somehow affected her. When I took smoke breaks. I took MLK day off and she didn't. SO I was avoiding her. My having to work overtime, caused her stress.

Stop being a Me-Me

Yeah that’s what I’ve come to realize, thanks!!!