I'm not OP but tifu too and came here in hopes that reading about people's stories would help me feel a bit less alone and dramatic about mine. Your story helped, so thank you a lot

>I suppose dressing nice and dancing is an invite to have sex?

Except I'm the one suggesting people should be more direct, so I'm not sure why you'd think I think that.

It's not her fault alone - it's both of their faults, his for not being able to understand she wasn't interested, and hers for not realizing that he'd not stop trying.

And so I'm suggesting that her not being direct ended up causing more trouble for both parties in the long run. This could be avoided by either being direct, or stopping to spend time with him after indirectly saying no to him.

She claimed he was supposed to find it.

So you say it’s her fault he pestered her and insulted her for months?

This is a great example of seriously problematic thinking. I suppose dressing nice and dancing is an invite to have sex? Or agreeing to a coffee means they are dating you?

Come on. Get your head on straight and understand people aren’t always direct.

I think it's hard for a lot of people to tell the two of those things apart

Apparently I’m aging myself here, but I never knew “Nice Guy” was a bad thing and an insult.

I’ve always seen it as the person that does the right thing to their own detriment and typically end up alone. “Nice guys finish last” and all that.

Gold bond cooling powder works better. An entire handful turns your nuts to ice cubes, but about half that amount works pretty good and they don't stick to the inside of your thigh when it's +35 out.

How else could it be interpreted?

>There is nothing wrong with asking your friend out. But being a sex pest is annoying, wrong, and abhorrent

Said perfectly.

I mean people develop sentimentality in different ways, I’m accepting of OP’s reasoning but it makes no sense to me because we have different lived experiences.

And people not having to grow up in poverty should be a good thing.

She hid drugs in it lol

Most of the time. Sometimes they get it wrong and sometimes you have to wait for a post to take off before the sensible non-knee jerk reactions start to roll in.

Wishing you peace and healing, OP.

Well I thought I was having a shit day and I am, but damn. Gonna go buy a beer and be happy I don't have to worry about it.

Yes, mattress stayed in the same state as before the birth happened. It was protected with multiple layers of plastic and sheets.

It's time for a new one though because it's old and lost support but it's sentimental now.

But are you happy with the outcome of the mattress after the birth?

Since you're a bidet fan, get an electric one with all the bells and whistles for your whistle! It's a game changer for sure. Oscillating spray head, courtesy flush....

I'll give you guess what I'm doing right now.

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I once had an anti cellulite treatment and massage at a resort. It was basically a quick massage and a mint soaked wrap of my entire body. I was shivering to my core for a full half an hour before they took it off. Even in the crazy Caribbean heat I shivered for the rest of the day!

>Don't mess around and smile or say something like "fine" if one of those doctors asks how you're doing--they will write it down and it will go in your file which will look like the doctor thinks you are without pain

This is huge!!

If you need disability, say the right things to the doctors! What they write down matters. A LOT.

She needs to express her limitations to every doctor she sees.

What IN the CEL is this post?

Heh.

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I obviously don't know the exact words the girl used, but if she wasn't able to straight up say "no", without girl-speak like "not right now" or "im not ready yet" then it's partly on her for not realizing the guy might not have got the message.

I understand it's not easy to flat out say "im not interested in you that way - not now, not ever" or whatever, but after making the excuse the girl should not assume it would be possible to be just friends with the guy. I know in an ideal rational world it should be possible, but emotions and hormones do exist. She needed to cut down on the friendship asap.

This reminds me of something that was going around on twitter - it was along the lines of “men talk about the friend zone a lot, but something that doesn’t get talked about is the pain you feel as a woman when you thought you had a friend, but in actual fact all you had was a man pretending to care about you so they could sleep with you”

I feel bad for this poor girl

I feel like PBR and a shot for $5 is our "local food item".

It's been a tradition for as long as I can remember.