Recent comments in /f/tifu

Scarecrow314159 t1_j6h65gs wrote

Reply to TIFU by wearing a T-shirt to a restaurant by JustSpeaker208

Reminds me of the time my parents said I could wear jeans and a button shirt to a semi formal event... except.. when I showed up, everyone was wearing suits and ties. I stuck out like a sore thumb and I felt really self conscious for it.

Good on you for just rolling with it and even turning it into a laugh for everyone, that was definitely the best strategy there. They won't remember you as underdresser, they'll remember you as funny and charismatic :)

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Eldryanyyy t1_j6h5frl wrote

Reply to comment by ProbablyNotADuck in TIFU: Said something hateful to my husband by [deleted]

India isn’t the country you discussed where women ‘aren’t treated like human beings’. Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Iran…are. Changing the subject pretty obviously when it’s clear you are wrong.

8 times a day is for new mothers. Maternity leave is way too long for that to ever be relevant. Changing the subject again. Most women only pump every 4 hours when they return to work. Once before work, once during lunch, once after work.

Seems the lack of understanding clearly isn’t mine.

Men often have no right to even raise their own children in many countries. Including the west. However, this argument style of ‘what about men and this’ is clearly a deflection because you know I’m right.

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Hitoha24 t1_j6h4vl2 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by making some random guy outside Home Depot think I’m going to off myself by Suka_Blyad_

No smoking with any Gods!! Baps with a newspaper bad!! Cause if you can smoke with them that means you're unalived and thats unacceptable!! So we will have none of that sir/madam/or other respectful non binary or other gendered title!! Please contain any smoking to this Earth and not in the afterlife.

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Mother_of_Dogecoinz t1_j6h4cjw wrote

Reply to TIFU Telling a friend I need space because I still have feelings for her by RetroRedditor

Mad respect for putting your feelings out there respectfully.

Life ain’t no dress rehearsal. Best paradigm shift that ever happened in my life was going from never speaking my mind and always wondering “what if…” to finally losing that fear of rejection and making sure I said what I needed to say. Not putting it out there and then agonizing over missed opportunities felt so so much worse to me.

Be respectful, speak your mind, then rest easy knowing you did all you could. You can feel good about that.

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Mother_of_Dogecoinz t1_j6h3vs3 wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my girlfriend to pick between me and someone else and saying I wouldn’t care who she picked. by [deleted]

The better thing to say than “you choose me or them” is to say “let me know when you’ve got your situation figured out and we can talk, not sure where I’ll stand by then, but I shouldn’t stand in your way.”

Cuz that’s the truth. If someone is gonna wander, they are gonna do it regardless of what you do. You want a partner, a companion. Not a contractual obligation. Squeezing tighter just causes more damage.

Be thankful you found this out early.

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Mother_of_Dogecoinz t1_j6h33ez wrote

Reply to TIFU By telling my platonic friend I would date her by QuirkyWizard

I dunno. I think I’m like you and would be bummed to have never said anything about your thoughts. You said what you said, then she declined but says it’s all good as long as there is no ulterior motive.

So now that you’ve gotten it off your chest and it wasn’t reciprocated I’d just take it at face value and act like all is normal, as best as you can.

I’d bet that “less is more” in terms of your next steps. Apologize, but don’t go crazy. Tell her you think she’s legit and you want the best for her, and that the way you said it wasn’t intended to be an actual move, just that a dude would be lucky to have her.

Then on to the next subject. If you make it awkward it’s gonna get awkward. Just do your thing, if you belabor the subject too much it’ll be too cringe. If you brush it off she’ll hopefully just come to respect the honesty.

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