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benyoderusa t1_it5tg5s wrote

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can’t imagine what it feels like, and I’m sure it is scary to have this be in front of your family and community now. But I am confident you will persevere through it. You did nothing wrong here IMO. I think telling someone in a position to help was the right call. Your teacher sounds like a good natured person who is just trying to help. I’m sure they will understand. This is part of the process to healing. Good luck OP, we are all pulling for you and proud of you. You have the strength to fight through this and come out stronger on the other side !

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Wild1inMKE t1_it5sdr7 wrote

Appreciate that what she is doing is in your best interest. You can still give her little gifts. In fact she may appreciate them as a sign that you are not upset with her reporting the SA, and that you understand that ethically, she has to report it.

Just as you would like her to understand how you feel; look at this from her perspective and try to understand how she may feel.

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cyclops_strenuus t1_it5sco6 wrote

Listen, i think you're very brave for telling her about it. Now you're panicking, which is understandable, because you don't know what comes next. But your teacher sounds like a good person, I'm sure they will do everything in their power to help you. I think this might be the starting point for a process that will do you good!

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JuliaThaddeus12 t1_it5rtov wrote

Yea, you shouldn’t have lied. But her joking about you being a virgin just rubs me the wrong way tbh. I think she might have some emotional issues (jealousy, insecurity maybe, immaturity). Good on you for telling the truth btw. We all lie about dumb stuff sometimes, the best people are the ones that can admit that they lied. In the future, hopefully you get with someone who you can like, actually feel comfortable enough to be open with. As a woman who’s dated virgins and nonvirgins, her behavior about sex/virginity screams insecurity in my opinion. She needs to address certain emotions she has about sex, and figure out where these fears come from. It sounds like she might be scared of your ex, and can’t handle the fact that you A. Had sex with your ex, and B. Lied to her, because what else have you lied about? (In her mind). She’s going to have to examine her role in all this, because it’s not just your fault. the thing you lied about is such a weird thing to feel like you would have to lie about, which makes me wonder if maybe you weren’t feeling respected or trusted enough in the relationship

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thatsoundthough t1_it5msfg wrote

Then move on. Mourn the relationship if you want to, be friends with each other if you can. If you get back together when you're both more mature, cool. If not, you just go on. This isn't a monstrous offense on anyone's part. Just be human with each other and talk. Be totally honest and respectful with each other.

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blackcatonacid OP t1_it5lamq wrote

I knew who I am , that what made it even more confusing.. I couldn't remember the last year of my life or so... My last memory was at my home country at my old apartment.. I freaked out trying to understand how I got here All I could think is how the hell did I fucked up so bad to get into this situation

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JuliaThaddeus12 t1_it5l100 wrote

Should probably go without saying, but make sure your gf is okay too. If you can, you guys should take some time to seriously rest your minds. Your mind has been stressed and stretched a bunch, and it needs to recuperate. Don’t take any drugs for a while, try meditation, try talking with someone who’s had experience tripping, keep things positive in the house (positive music, no tv/movies that’s sad or scary). If you’re religious, make sure you pray. If you have a therapist, make sure you talk to them. Spend time together. Get plenty of sleep. Spend time in sunlight- do not stay locked up in your house. Warn the guy you bought them from. For real, there might be something VERY wrong with the mushrooms you took, and you don’t want other people to have the experience you did. I’m guessing those mushrooms were not psilocybin but were something else.

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