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Reply to TIFU by ruining my year long friend ship by [deleted]

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throwway_1768 OP t1_it5yj8f wrote

Reply to comment by JuliaThaddeus12 in TIFU by confessing to my girlfriend that I wasn't actually a virgin by throwway_1768

Thank you for your reply.

>It sounds like she might be scared of your ex, and can’t handle the fact that you A. Had sex with your ex, and B. Lied to her, because what else have you lied about? (In

I think this is spot on. We've known each other since before we started dating. I did speak to her about my ex back then and at one point I did say that I'd have liked it if we got back together. There were clearly unresolved feelings I had. I took my time to work through them before I started dating again. I don't think my girlfriend believed for the longest time that I was completely over my ex. Once we did start dating I avoided any conversation about my previous relationship.

When all of this went down, I told her that her attitude towards my ex made it difficult for me to come clean about being sexually involved. She doesn't want want to share the blame for any of it and says that it's all on me and that I shouldn't have waited this long to come clean.

Now that you mention it, it is weird that this was so difficult for me to talk about. I'm going to have to reflect on this a little.

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KittikatB t1_it5y3fc wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by telling a teacher I was SA’d by [deleted]

Nobody wants to make that report. Especially when it's about someone you care about. We all want to think the people in our lives are safe and happy and nobody is hurting them. Having to confront the fact that it's not true and report that is hard, but it's the right thing to do. She will only have wished she didn't have to make that report because she wishes that you never had to experience that assault. She sounds like a great person and I'm glad you've got her in your life.

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UsernameIsTakenO_o t1_it5xhsu wrote

Reply to TIFU by sending Nudes by East_Independent_657

It's absolutely a scam, and not even a very complex one. The guy impersonates an attractive woman in her early 20's, gets you to send nudes, then plays the "angry father". If that doesn't work, his accomplice plays the "detective" to add authority, fear, and urgency.

First clue: the "angry father" is demanding money. That's not what fathers do when they find out a 20-something is sending naked pictures to their 15 year old daughter. A real father would probably demand you delete the photos and don't contact his daughter, or just threaten to kill the ever living fuck out of you.

Second clue: the "detective" is negotiating for you to pay money to the "angry father". It would have been more believable if they stuck with "give me money or I'll call the cops". Real police would either try to get a confession before you have an attorney present, or just explain they aren't pursuing charges because the "daughter" solicited the nude photos under the guise of an adult on an adult website.

Third clue: the "detective" hung up when you pressed for a badge number, indicated your intent to verify their identity, and informed them you're recording. Scammers want easy, gullible targets. If you push back in any way, they'll hang up and move on.

Bonus tip: In the U.S., you never have to inform a police officer you're recording them during the course of their official duties. You can't record in sensitive areas where recording devices are prohibited, but otherwise you can record the police doing police business and you don't have to tell them.

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KittikatB t1_it5w9oj wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling a teacher I was SA’d by [deleted]

You have no need to feel remorse or shame for sharing that with your teacher. One of the reasons teachers are mandated reporters is because students will often trust them with things too big to deal with on their own. It's not inappropriate to talk to them about something terrible that happened to you. You did the right thing to speak up to someone you trust, and they have done the right thing by reporting it so that the authorities can make sure that you are safe and have the resources you need to work through this.

I experienced sexual assault as a child and I wish I'd been as brave as you were in speaking up. I kept quiet, and I regret it. You have ruined nothing with this teacher, who clearly means a lot to you. I have no doubt that she is pleased you felt you could trust her enough to tell her what was going on with you.

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thatsoundthough t1_it5vcu6 wrote

Reply to comment by throwaway_nowgoaway in TIFU by eating shrooms and violently forcing my girlfriend to throw up by blackcatonacid

It was no good, but also amazing. The Chemical Brothers' Dig Your Own Hole is forever burned into my memory...one of the few things I remember before everything went atomic. Was giggly when the album started, auditory hallucinations kicked in with "It Doesn't Matter," and I don't remember the album ending because I was slumped over the toilet, retching and passing out. The MAOI was definitely not needed.

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