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thewhothewhatthewhy t1_it95u4l wrote

Reply to comment by hersheymunk in TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

I mean

If I was in a relationship with someone, and they told me the child is mine, but proceeded to lie about it, I'm not going to let that down.

You lied to him for what reason? So that he can stay committed to you?

Of course he's not fine, the fact that you made him believe the kid was his but turns out it was the child of your previous lover weighs heavily in his mind. He's telling you he's fine with it to reassure you, but in reality it's gnawing at him.

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hersheymunk OP t1_it95eyg wrote

Reply to comment by ohgeebus_notagain in TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

he’s jealous of my ex. i didn’t want to mention this but i am going to do it anyway. when we first got together i made a mistake and lied to him saying that i was pregnant with his baby, but it wasn’t really his. he forgave me and we got together.

when we got married i was still pregnant and i revealed to him that i was pregnant with my ex’s baby, but he said that it didn’t matter and that he would still love me and my son the same.

although he said that he doesn’t care about my ex, he was lying. my ex sadly goes to the same school as him so it’s inevitable that they are going to run into each other one or two times. he and my ex have gotten into multiple fights, and i think it’s just putting more struggles into our relationship.

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thewhothewhatthewhy t1_it94we6 wrote

Reply to comment by ohgeebus_notagain in TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

I can already feel some level of regret from the husband just by reading this because he never disclosed that he's married to anyone

Probably sacrificing his own happiness to keep OP happy, and we all know how well that goes

I sacrificed my own happiness in my previous relationship, and it ended with a horrendous break up because she thought I didn't do enough for her

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DubiousTomato t1_it94ua6 wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

I'm curious what seemed to be the rush to get married. Marriage isn't this fairytale bookend to relationships like we're lead to believe. While you two may do great together, you have so much life left to establish who you are as individuals. It's not impossible to achieve, but look at where you are now: on Reddit making a post to figure out how to handle a complex situation that would otherwise be solvable by experience and maturity. There's a lot more growth that has to happen, and you and your husband really need to sit down and talk with everyone so everyone can really hear each other.

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ohgeebus_notagain t1_it93xtr wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

You and your husband FU'ed on so many levels it's not even funny. He's afraid of the marriage, and his family, and telling his friends?

WHY is he afraid to tell his best friend? Why did ya'll hide this from family? WTF is he lying about? Why is he jealous? Or is that you? Jealousy has no place in a marriage, so this implies that you two are not comfortable and trusting of each other.

He's "insinuating that he's trapped in our marriage" because he's afraid to admit to others that he married you. Why is that? He didn't even tell his best friend! If it's a good friendship, this won't ruin that friendship, but it's going to put a knife into yours

YA'LL NEED COUNSELING ASAP before you prove his parents correct. If you care, fucking fight. Get a counselor as a referee, and fix this the right way

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Ryshoe8 t1_it92f1o wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

Your parents are correct. You were too young to get married and your entire story verifies it. Lots of red flags in there. You guys should think about getting an annulment and try dating for a few years while you become fully formed adults. I do wish you the best of luck with whatever route you go and hope it works out.

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Xaser125 t1_it91tfl wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my husbands best friend that we’re married. by hersheymunk

Realy?

If that was me i would tell hes parents that they dont decide others peeps lifes...

Hes friend take it or leave it, who gives anything if u are married or anything its your life and hes.

Last part the distance or anything, if that happens he never liked you, but thats just me

Side topic, theres plenty of guys arround if something goes sideways :P

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throwway_1768 OP t1_it8z5hg wrote

Reply to comment by JuliaThaddeus12 in TIFU by confessing to my girlfriend that I wasn't actually a virgin by throwway_1768

She just wanted some time together to get comfortable. She said that i should have realised how important it is for me to be honest about this knowing her views on sex. I spoke to her about my previous relationship and apparently what irked her the most was how much i tried to avoid mentioning it. Go and figure that lol. I knew about her insecurities but apparently tip toeing around it only made it worse. I asked her if it would be possible for us to get back together in the future and she said she'd definitely consider it. I think I'll seek professional help to help correct how i react to her feelings in general.

Thank you for listening to me, you're very kind. God bless.

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