Lmao honestly if u break up with someone like that, you 100% deserve all of the ramifications.

Lol you big “boofer” you didn’t even need to tell us how old you are , we could’ve guessed by your words alone. Lol. (No offense tho, just being silly)

You really buried the lead on this one, mate. You were pregnant with another man's child, lied to your boyfriend, got married, and then told the truth. He may have "forgiven" you, but that doesn't mean the gravity of the future isn't crushing him.

Yeah, this was a FU. I got married to my wife at 20 and we had been together for five years by that point and known each other our whole lives. And even with that background, it was still really rough some days. Our families and friends knew and we had talked about it for awhile beforehand.

I'm sorry to tell you this, but I think your family was right. I don't doubt your feelings, but you did not have a strong base of trust nor truly know the other person. Those are critical for a marriage. I'm sorry that it is falling apart. Maybe things will work out, I can't say. But marriage is like a contract, it is not to be entered into lightly and you should only do it when you are thoroughly thought about it.

Good luck to your and your husband, whatever the future may bring

"For some back story, I am almost 16, I was sexually assaulted when I was young"

"... it ended up getting reported ..."

You are still young (I am 64) to most people.

1. At what age were you SA'd and by whom or what was their relation to you?

When you bring up the subject, it invites these kinds of question since people want to understand your experience better.

If you don't want to talk about it with strangers (e.g. us on Reddit), feel free to not reply to my questions. I get the impression you are soliciting advice from us on how to avoid the "reporting" situation which seems to cause you some distress, so I am soliciting clarification before I give my opinion.

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2. I'm not sure what you mean about "reported". Do you mean "reported to police"? Or do you mean reported to "mental health" personnel, or both?

At first, I couldn't understand why your teacher had to "report" the SA again if it had already been .reported. The mental health counselors may feel that if you are still talking about it with non-peers, then you are, at best, over-obsessing about it or, at worst, passively soliciting more SA (whether you want it or not). In either case, they may think you would benefit from some counseling and so they have encouraged other non-peers (adults) to notify them.

It sounds like the guy handled it like a pro from his end.

Where am I?

I still don't understand the fascination with sending nudes or uploading them, but be careful out there. It just takes once misclick and those pics will get out there and ruin your life.

Idk… they did say in their post they realized it was mostly pressure from other people.

Pro tip: don't talk about your previous sex life to your current partner. Once you start going down that rabbit hole, stuff like what you said will happen so it's best to keep that stuff tight-lipped.

I believe you u/buttlickka. Lmao.

Uh, you should probably never take shrooms again.

Who is this?

You should get couples counseling

Aye a happy ending. You guys had a deep talk about maybe having feelings for each other and if you wanted to pursue it and then both mutually agreed to hold off on that. That's a friend you need to keep!

100% believe your parents know a lot about love.

Oh honey. What makes you think that these people have forgiven you?

Oooh, thank you, that explains way more. Yeah this is an absolute mess.

This.

When I originally read OP's post, I immediately became skeptical because people don't elope and then continue to hide the marriage from their friends. The fact that the OP lied to the husband about the kid just so that he stays with her is going to make that marriage unreconcilable because he will always be worrying what she's lying about and trust is one of the pillars of a strong marriage. It is doable, but at 18 yrs old, it's highly unlikely. Just put yourself in the husband's shoes, he's having this kid, knows it's not his, may not know that he will be responsible because the kid is being born into the marriage which automatically makes him the father which will come with it's own set of consequences if the marriage doesn't work out, e.g. child support payments for a baby that's not his. All of that pressure and burden on him will put him in a really bad place mentally and based on the OP's other posts, it sounds like it already has. As others have mentioned, the best course of action here is to get therapy and counseling. Maybe the marriage can be salvaged, but if not, then yall need to make that decision before it becomes destructive.

I got married at 19. I have zero regrets. Don’t let these internet people discourage you in your marriage. It won’t always be easy but in the long run it’s worth it. Half of the people on here raging on you for getting married young are probably alone.

Yeah I agree, the timeline is odd and, while I’m not a mushroom expert, I haven’t experienced anything like that before. Could be a weird species I guess, I think there’s a lot we don’t know with mushrooms and other psychedelics. It’s also possible they metabolized them weird and had a latent intense reaction, and both are psychologically normal. Someone else in the thread mentioned tolerance since it sounds like they were tripping often, and that could also be a factor.

i gave my child up for adoption.

OP no offense, but you're delusional as hell and clearly aren't listening to other commenters in this thread. You've trapped your husband in a sham marriage because you're pregnant with another man's child (an ex) and are relying on your husband to help you raise said child after initially lying to him. You are young, and foolish. Please get therapy for both you and your husband and try and salvage this wreck before you inevitably bring an innocent child into this clusterfuck of a situation.

At least you know why they're not supportive of your marriage

yes, they do. the sister is still a little angry about it and his mother just absolutely hates me but, yes, they do know. and they’ve basically forgave me