I mean, putting something in the oven that's going to cook for a few hours is different than leaving something on the stove on high. Even if it's simmering on low, at least be in the same room so you can see or hear if something goes wrong.

Weddings were the best time for me when I was little and we planned to make it the same for the children that were invited. Seeing them running around, playing, surrounding the chocolate fountain and asking for the fish butterflies on the wedding cake made me happy.

While I am highly tech-savvy (don't ask I signed an NDA) I know a lot of others who aren't. They can be younger or older or even my age but I am the go-to and the 1st to be called when they see something on FB or if their computer is acting weird. The last convo I had with a friend in her 80s was "my camera on zoom shows my door on the wrong side, how come and how do I move my door." It was just a flipped video and had me laughing for the rest of the day, but I walked her thru fixing her door without her realizing the entire video was flipped. Only after did I explain and it made sense when I asked her about photos with writing she had taken a long long time ago. So I try to point out things that are obvious to many but many others go "oh I didn't think of that. Just so happened that your awesome comment tweaked my need to add my insight and share the 411.

Oh, please. There is nothing about steaming beets that requires attending to UNLESS YOU FORGET THE WATER LIKE AN IDIOT.

I cook every day (I don't buy much prepared food and rarely eat out) and generally have a pretty good grip on what requires my attention and what doesn't.

Then it seems like the type of situation that needs time to get better. You probably got it covered then.

Not a very good cook if you feel the need to stand over the pot the entire time instead of preparing the rest of the meal or anything, guessing nothing ever gets out at the same time in your kitchen, or half the food is cold

And I was going to make this great Russian salad, too.

https://natashaskitchen.com/russian-vinaigrette-recipe-with-beets-and-sauerkraut/

Mazel to, you crazy kids!

As someone who grew up in the DC region and has lived in NYC, I can empathize. There’s a reason so many people in the DC area flee to the suburbs. If the suburban lifestyle doesn’t appeal to you, it can be very hard to be live decently in the city proper without having/spending insane amounts of money.

Think positively, at least you didn't also burn the whole place down. I have seen that happen 1st hand. Source: Former Fireman.

Lmaooooo I wish I could see his face when he showed up and got 2 raviolis on a lettuce leaf. He would 100% think that shit was personal

"but keeps going"

What a trooper

Serving the food you personally like at your own wedding seems like a mistake. You want to serve the food that your guests will enjoy.

it really is😀

i know 😭

Op you’re wife isn’t out of her mind. You are if you think she’s wrong.

Delicious food was a requirement for my wedding so I get caring about good food. But her dad is right, people want to be well fed.

Right? I feel specially proud that at my wedding only one guest managed to taste everything. People complained for a week that they couldn’t eat the lamb (served at ~midnight) or the soup because they had stuffed with the desserts. People saying that they couldn’t enjoy the dinner because they ate too much at the cocktail. People saying that they missed the chocolate fountain because they only had a little space left for the wedding cake.

I agree with the father completely, if people are giving you their time you give them choices.

This...is a lot

My advice to anyone getting married….Do what YOU (the couple) want to do. Stop trying to please everyone. If people who are important to you both actually care about you, they’ll be there, no matter where it is or what food will be served. It’s YOUR wedding. So what makes you happy. Fuck everyone else’s opinion.

Christ

There is nothing worse than someone telling you that they will feed you dinner and then they serve a tiny ass portion of something or a snack. I don't understand it. Especially if you know that's not how the hosts normally eat. Please feed your guests.

That's really weird and probably poor planning. For buffet style I'd try to go overboard rather than have guests go hungry. Still, the first guests should limit themselves and then go back for seconds if there is food left over. That said, I've never been to a wedding that was short on food.

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They're celebrities. It's not an easy thing to do to the point where you have such a slim chance of getting hacked as a non-celebrity, you might as well not even think of it.