Coming from an Italian family and having catered with my father. The first rule is “no one goes home hungry”. Haute cuisine is fine as long as there is lots of it. Or throw in a pan of peppers onions and sausages with some rolls😋

Dude, you're just horny. You don't have feelings.

Uh... that's not the point? If this was a question of who's right or wrong, then in case she actually is running with the kid, we would have to ask HIM to not say "I fucked up by accidentally texting her" (let alone me saying he fucked up), because who cares what she feels about the text if she's really doing it?

"Fucking up" in this context has nothing to do with right or wrong, it only concerns how smoothly a certain isolated situation could've gone instead of how it did, and to me, it would've been better if he just told her straight, than to say it accidentally. He's not wrong, he's a victim, and if she in fact is leaving the country, then well, yeah, she is wrong.

Yes, especially if she's got the same surname as the kids. If the surnames are different, there is additional paperwork required to prove it isn't a kidnapping. I know someone who kept her married name for this reason.

But yes, it's very easy for a parent to move countries with a child leaving the other parent with bugger all legal options. While there is usually a requirement for a work/permanent VISA, the parent in question doesn't need to tell anyone about it, and the country issuing it isn't going to tell anyone if they are asked.

I say a VISA is usually required, there are situations where you can request asylum in a destination country. Everyone is immediately going to think of refugees in sinking boats trying to enter the EU or something like that. The problem the refugees in boats usually have is, they have passed through other countries. If you want refugee status, you have to ask in the first country you get to. (Example : If you were fleeing Liberia and boarded a plan that landed in Ghana and you then got onto another flight to the UK. The UK will tell you to piss off, because you should have asked Ghana)

There are cases where the opposite happens, family is leaving the country, so they go to the airport, parents board the plan and leave the kids behind. Yes, am aware that sounds made up, but it isn't and it's worse than you think because it was in a country with no social services nor any kind of facility that could assist.

Unless you are absurdly wealthy and can have your wedding at a 3 Michelin star restaurant, the caterers are not going to execute anything near haute cuisine. I have been to very expensive weddings where this was tried with caterer and I can still recall the trauma I had over the texture of the pretentious ravioli. Your fiancée’s dad is right. Sorry.

Awe. Everyone look at the victim. Feel sorry for them.

You're surprisingly chipper for being so distraught

>Well unless she's got permission to stay, live and work…

Things that are also not too hard to obtain. People emigrate all the time.

i don’t know about americans but it’s normal in my country to get a passport for everyone

Only way this could be worse if you said you werent using a rubber and caught something

It's not a bad thing that your ex knows you're fearful of losing your son. It just means you care.

I find it funny how you never once said she fucked up, even though he did right he still fucked up. Hmmmm

Hey op how about you get your life together instead of making up random stories on reddit that contradict each other and then delete all evidence the second you get called out?

Because scavenging is already a fireable offense. All the people saying "do the right thing" have obviously never had a job before. That is absolutely not how it works. You can risk being caught, or be fired immediately. Which is better?

You fucked up earlier by not discussing it with her. I mean, I know she's your ex, but we should just get people used to being open and honest about everything. It's obviously a thought that you couldn't repress or dismiss, let's be honest, so let it out (and I can't blame you, I mean dude, a passport for a 5 year old as an ID and not a normal state ID? That's suspicious, if not a dead-give-away)

Could've just brought it up to her on the phone or in person, directly and in very simple and friendly words. Or just ask "Why a passport and not a state ID?" without stating it completely. She'd do the math. Anyways, I hope everything's good, although I think the reason she didn't text back is because she was exposed. Wonder how things went.

That's not the f up my dude. The f up is not trusting your gut. There's no reason for a passport unless you're leaving the country. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

I kinda hope so, but if not then we might have a working theory.

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Not right before, ON Valentine’s Day.

And he broke up with her ON Valentine’s Day for something that lasted a week. She’s not gonna forget that.

You don’t need a passport unless you are leaving the country…

I kinda get that. Alaska is closer to more opps for international travel.

trusted a fart :/

Don't fret, I'm untriggered. Simply being in some peoples presence can be traumatic tho.

and end up on r/TargetedShirts