Due to the times, I was happy to hear that my grandchild has a passport secured at age 5

THIS MOVE IT UP

My husbands ex took the kids and didn’t return them on time. This was before a parenting plan was in place. And the cops said without the PP they couldn’t do shit. we have allllll this labeled out in court paperwork now.

If this was r/aita you’d be the biggest A-hole I’ve ever seen. Spare her the trouble and stay out of her life.

I'm definitely not near enough to a border that I'd want to drive there, lol.

Idk, it just seems like a pointless expenditure for me, personally.

Head very far up their own ass its just comical the sense of self importance and moral grandiosity people have, preaching tolerance while literally making jokes to someone about their brother being in a wheel chair, and then I get downvoted for pointing it out 😅 come on ppl! Just imagine if you watched your brother get blown up and then he killed himself… would you be a balanced rational person??? Or maybe you’d be fucked up and need some empathy???

True. But if mom is thinking that far ahead she should also open a bank account and credit card in the kiddo’s name. I did that for my kids when they turned 5, but skipped the passport because having a passport won’t improve their ability to get a home or a car later in life

Unless you have a court order stipulating out of country travel and shared custody, a childs passport should be off the table regardless of the health of your coparenting relationship. You texting your ex about your reservations was the second best thing you could have done. Validating your own emotions and not getting the passport would have been the first. Your fear is not irrational at all. It is based on real stories from real people.

Things can change very quickly, so it's handy to have. Plus, if you're within a few hours of a border, it's easy to drive across and have an international weekend.

My mother got a new partner abroad and moved out on the guise of a holiday to my dad (separated at this point) taking me with her, she stayed for months until she was in an accident and came back. Meanwhile my dad was powerless to do anything because I live with her

I don't think I've ever seen a deal cheap enough that I could afford it.

I can't even afford domestic flights to a few states over, much less overseas, so I don't see the purpose of a passport, myself.

Ever hear of a timer? My point is you don’t leave it alone long enough to fuse metal without some way to keep track.

My mum did this to me, only she did leave to stay with a new partner in Spain, only came back when it fell apart after a few months

You don’t have feelings for your original girlfriend. You just want her again because now you have nobody - as you deserve. If girl #3 walked through the doors, you’d break up with your original girlfriend all over again. Grow up and leave her alone - she’s better off without an asshat like you in her life.

No way I bet 10

Seriously, just leave her alone.

I had one of those when I was a kid :D

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It makes final destination situations needlessly complicated

Work on yourself before dating anybody, you’re too emotionally immature.

It’s how I was abducted at that age by my father during parents divorce.

I think it’s also faster and easier to get a NEW passport if you already had one.

A young friend moved across U.S. Nobody had a clue where his birth certificate was. Procedure to get a duplicate was complicated. But we could use his expired passport, which implicitly confirms that U.S. government has already seen ID documents, to apply for a new passport, which he could use to open a bank account etc.

There’s obviously a cutoff for expiration—don’t remember if it was five years or what. But having initiated that means the next passport should be easier.

Ease the guilt my friend. It’s not your fault. Shit happens. Here, head over to r/DeerAreFuckingStupid to feel better about the poor dog.

should of titled this TIFU by allowing my ex wife to gaslight me.

I guarantee you if you had asked her for a passport the things going through her mind would make your head spin.

Leave the girl you broke up with alone. She should be a priority not an option and you are definitely treating her as an option.

You should feel lik te a$$hole, because in this situation you are the a$$hole.

Your brother ain't standing bro.