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Tuga_Lissabon t1_ja5931e wrote

OP, leaving her on Valentine's was a real dick move. You fucked up, and your current feelings are deserved karma.

I'll add how you made sure to add "less attractive", btw. The whole story did not need that qualifier.

What this makes me feel is you haven't found another girl at that level and are feeling it. Its attraction and regret, nothing more, and that girl is well rid of you.

Move on and try not to be as shitty next time.

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travisthemonkey t1_ja58zwy wrote

Send one last text apologizing saying you need to reevaluate your life and what is and is not acceptable for you to be “joking” around about with her. you will keep this humor (which I’m hoping is all in jest and you’re not actually anti Semitic) to your self. You took it to far and this will never happen again. Unless you want to be able to joke like this with a partner, then you did yourself a favor. If not, atheist or not. Boy, you better start praying

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HelenaBirkinBag t1_ja58iyk wrote

The US/Canada land border requires a letter from the other parent. The Schengen Zone did not, and though I had documentation from my ex, I was not asked for it. Though I don’t hold my children’s passports, I do have photos of the information pages.

Though honestly, in a kidnapping scenario, she would be stupid to travel with their real identities because it is so easily tracked now that passports have chips.

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Rejusu t1_ja58g2r wrote

There's no set it and forget it. But there's plenty of things that don't require regular attention that enable you to go do other things around the house. Slow cookers, long roasts in the oven, smoking meats on the BBQ, long simmers on the stove. I make Christmas pudding most years and the recipe I use involves steaming the pudding for eight hours to cook it initially. Like fuck am I standing in the kitchen for eight hours watching a pudding steam. I get it going and then set an alarm to check on the water level periodically so it doesn't boil dry.

All that said I don't understand how people can't stay in the kitchen long enough to get a pot boiling. Or think they can leave anything going at high heat unattended for very long.

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SamScoopCooper t1_ja5887d wrote

Just because Jewish people are involved doesn’t mean something isn’t antisemitic. Then people like OP think these jokes are okay to tell and it’s hard to distinguish between people who say “Jewish person always asks for money” because they’re quoting South Park and somebody who says it because they believe it.

Not to mention if they think it’s a joke - it’s easier for them sucked down those antisemitic right wing rabbit holes

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Epcplayer t1_ja583ne wrote

> As a young man that is new into the dating category, HOW DO I FIX THIS? I feal like an absolute A$$ hole for what I did.

The thing you’re missing in this post (which is very telling by the way) is the reason why you broke up with Girl 1. As someone who’s also broken up with an attractive girl, I never had a “Fallback Plan” lined up…

I broke up with her because she didn’t want to spend time, when she did she was consistently late, the only time she consistently showed up was when my parents were visiting (to make it seem as though things were fine), she would make jokes about me in front of friends “as jokes”, she would find time to go out with friends but not with me, and she was telling people that I’d be looking for a new GF soon if I didn’t propose to her (despite the previous issues). I decided that it wasn’t worth the hassle, and that if she wanted to get back together, she would have to apologize and fix those issues…

Since I was dating a cute girl, many would approach me or message me and try to flirt. Some girls (not all) use this as a form of validation or attention seeking, and say that if she “can get” the guy with the cute girl, then she’s on par with that cute girl. I had the common sense not to take that bait, because I was all in on my current relationship.

If you didn’t have a long list of issues in the relationship, and you only wanted to “pad your count”, then yea you’re kinda the asshole. You need to recognize that and prevent it in the future.

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silent_cat t1_ja57jgc wrote

Dunno about elsewhere, but here (NL) if you're travelling by yourself with a kid under 18, you need some kind of proof at the border that the other parent consents.

Of course, you can go a bloody long way before you hit border controls, but it's usually a problem for countries like Morocco and Turkey.

Edit: it's not foolproof obviously, but it prevents a lot of the simple cases.

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