“We’ll don’t ask for favors on a flight, you might just get one” to all the people who don’t want to pay enough to be seated together but want favors from strangers to sit together..

Hahaha what?! Good job, you. 🤣

I think you're right about TSA. It's not really their job to worry about that stuff is it?

Here's a blurb from the US Dept. of State web site: "Be aware the United States does not have exit controls or require two-parent consent for a minor to travel across international borders. Law enforcement may be unable to prevent an abduction without a valid court order clearly prohibiting the child’s travel outside of the United States."

And even more info: https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction/prevention/prevention-faqs.html

It looks like there are steps that a parent can take ahead of time to help prevent an abduction from taking place.

That’s a local environment/culture thing. It would be weird at a gym. At a convention, not weird at all. People let loose there.

Other places, interaction and overtures can be more subtle.

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I mean, it's not something that I think about every day, it's just that I've had few enough romantic encounters for me to think about occasionally and make me want to post about it =P

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I understand what you're saying, and I appreciate it! I'm sure there's been a few other times, all of which, again, I was either too oblivious to notice or I was not interested. I'd like to think that I'm more receptive now, but it literally never happens anymore. I'm still in school and I walk down the halls and attend class and I go entirely unnoticed afaik. Even if I'm not, I might as well be because nobody talks to me and if they do, it's because they're doing their job or just being nice, the latter of which is something that took me an embarrassingly long time to recognize vs romantic interest. I now always make the assumption that they're just being nice, and it's always worked out and the few times I assumed it was romantic intent, I was wrong. So yeah, it's never easy =/

Oh my god, that’s really, jeez 😅 very interesting. People can be silly sometimes, including me. Yeah I don’t think Japan is clued up on technology stuff. People always say “Japan lives in the future” but I call bs, as someone who lives and works here they still use fax machines 🥴

Honestly to her this was a 3 second blip. To you its this huge thing you cant unsee. Get yourself out there - have the goood and the bad - thats what its all about :-)

Overlooked the "abroad" part in the OP. Yeah, from what I've heard, a lot of other countries have more lax thoughts on Rule 34... In the US, we block it all.

I was tech for a K12 school district for 12 years. If even one picture made it through, there'd be emails and meetings.. I remember a kid bringing in a USB drive full of stuff and saving it to his Chromebook in 2020. The idiot saved it to a hidden folder on his local Chromebook storage called pr0n. I had keyword searching going on in my one management service, and it picked it up immediately. I called the principal, and asked him what he wanted to do. We set up a meeting with his (super religious) mom and him. Asked him flat out if he had explicit images on his laptop. He said no and showed us his Chromebook folder view with a smug face. The principal said "Mr. Matt..." with an equally smug face. I enabled hidden files. BAM! Porn everywhere. Glorious, copious amounts of fetishes that would make a Vegas showgirl blush. I thought the mom was going to beat him with a Bible...

Principal said to me after the meeting, "lightspeed is worth every penny."

What happened is why you are gonna be remembered. Wouldn’t be surprised if get a call. If you were in the running already and kept your cool- then any smart employer will see you as a human who has shit happen, and knows how to handle it and roll with the punches.

I swear that wasn't in there on the first read through. Everyone commenting at the time I commented were talking about it being at the gate, not ON the plane.

I swear that wasn't in there on the first read through. Everyone commenting at the time I commented were talking about it being at the gate, not ON the plane.

At events that express your shared interests. More cons! Renaissance faires, whatever. Break time during an evening class. Church. Community theater is a huge one. “I met my spouse doing ‘Kiss Me Kate’ stories are legion.

Put yourself out there so people can see you being real. It’s easier to be authentic when you’re doing what interests you. Someone is going to like what they see.

I swear that wasn't in there on the first read through. Everyone commenting at the time I commented were talking about it being at the gate, not ON the plane.

Yeah, a friend of mine was invited to a very expensive restaurant for helping a very wealthy old woman with her Wi-Fi issues. He said he was the only person dining there who wasn’t a birdlike elderly woman, and that the food was fantastic, but it left him hungry enough that he stopped at a McDonald’s as soon as he left.

I enjoy experiential dining, degustation, tasting menus, experimental food, modernist cooking, etc, but only if I’m expecting it, and if there are enough courses that you aren’t starving when you’re done. Did one at MoMA and it was great, but we had a large breakfast knowing we would enjoy it more if we weren’t so hungry we didn’t take our time. Did a chef’s tasting a cruise ship a few years ago and that was worth every penny, not only was it excellent and fascinating, most of the tastings were at least 2 or 3 bites. It was enough that we took the last dessert back to our cabin.

And that was fantastic… but I was expecting it, looking forward to it, planned it.. didn’t have it sprung on me after sitting through a wedding and being expected to stand around being social for hours. :)

The biggest lesson here is to never cheat on your partner. Doesn't matter if it is romantic partner or work partner or whatever. Don't cheat on your partner. Not for any reason. You do not have the right to do that simply for your own convenience. What you did was not just a mistake, it was unethical.

You are young, but not too young to start thinking about things like ethics, morals, and principals. Start building your own code to live by. A good place to start is "Do to others as you would have them do to you." Having a code of ethics can help us not do stupid, selfish things that hurt others and ourselves.

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That's a story about an amazing friend. In 5 years you'll laugh about it. Until then, ignore it and go back over when invited... maybe put a little more distance between yourself and the wife until it's clear both she & husband are comfortable again. You sound like a godsend of a friend.

This is a dream come true for the socially awkward guys. It's like those memes where some women will makes comics like, "Imagine if girls always PESTERED you when you're out shopping or minding your own business, that would SUCK". Like no, that would be heaven. Different societal expectations and all.

Thank you. It's definitely something I'm taking and learning from. Still hate I hurt a good person because of my own poor judgement.

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Thank you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾