I once googled dicks.com at work thinking it was the sporting goods store - I wanted snorkel gear. I was so embarrassed and immediately told coworkers and IT in case that came up later!

Marriage is an outdated concept. It's not romantic, it's a legal contract. It makes some people feel safe, but it actually does none of that effectively. It does not mean you will spend the rest of your life together. A verbal agreement that you intend to spend the rest of your life together is effectively the same thing. Equally valid. And equally unenforceable.

Marriage does not mean true love, no matter how you look at it. Its just language that implies true love, and the illusion or hope for true love for some people.

That said, you should be able to communicate freely with your partner about your values and work it out. What is true love? That is the question. He may truly love you, but is speaking in different terms.

Haha, if you read to the end, they say it wasn't actually a fart.

Tbh it is quite an innocent mistake

Your dude needs to not be so insecure. If it's ok for him to go to a strip club, it's ok for you to go see Thunder From Down Under or Chippendales. Both of which are a lot tamer than what goes on in most strip joints aimed at males.

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It seems to me that your main fuck up is threatening a relationship you are seemingly enjoying, based solely on the fact that he doesn't really agree with marriage.

If there are other things wrong then fair enough, but it seems like self sabotage on your part.

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It was though, it was at work and it freaked me out because people could have easily seen. Threw me off for the rest of the morning.

I thought Os were the kisses?

As a married man of 13 years so far, there have been months where i feel like im in a share house with my wife and kids, not a family home.

But on the reverse, there are many more months / years where there is obvious love in the house and those occasional months are usually during hectic periods of life (busy periods at work, Christmas, school holidays etc.) So the lack of "love" isnt because its not there, just that we arent taking the same amount of time to show it openly.

>Call their bluff every time and still get stuck sitting next to my own kid for free every flight.

Sure, but that's a gamble you're willing to make.

One day the airline might not have empty seats to swap you around on to, or someone might not be willing to swap and if that happens that's something you (or someone else risking the same outcome) could've prevented by choosing seats.

It's not the airlines fault is my only point.

I booked a vacation for me and my family a couple of weeks ago and it wasn’t even possible to book seats on the flight.

You two loving each other IS the only important thing. If you're looking for reassurance that he truly loves you, observe his actions over a long period of time. I can guarantee you there are plenty of married couples who treat each other like acquaintances most days out of the year.

You're looking for a man that really really wants to get married? Lol... I would say most men need a bit of a push towards it. If you haven't really talked about how you feel about it seriously, more than casually mentioning it on a car ride, then immediately shutting yourself down when he didn't have the exact same opinion as you, you need to make it clear that it's important to you... your fuck up here is expecting him to take small talk from a first date, and a short car conversation as you telling him you seriously need something.

But marriage is over-romanticised and in the end it's just a contract and ticking a social checkbox of tradition. Why would you conclude he doesn't love you just because he doesn't want to marry you? You even listed the seemingly many things that are going good between you.

"I'm not seated with my kid, I honestly don't mind but whoever gets stuck next to my toddler might." There's no risk, I never pay extra to sit together, they always just fix it for you. That's a crap policy, honestly. Call their bluff every time and still get stuck sitting next to my own kid for free every flight.

Some people expect more… I had paid extra for a row 1 seat because I wanted not only the extra legroom but also place to work on my laptop, and some guy asks me to move so he can be beside his girlfriend. He wasn’t even polite about it, shoving his face into mine from above. I asked what seat, it was two rows back. When I reply “No” (a complete sentence!) he start stammering “but” with a shocked face like his magic incantation unexpectedly hadn’t worked, until his GF shoved him. GF then sat beside me. No attempt was made to get someone from row 3 to move forward smh.

No it doesn't.

What a great quote! I’ve never heard that before. Thanks for sharing

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So your mom and your mom's friend were sleeping in the same bed with the door locked? I can only imagine what that dog saw.

at least it wasnt a search for "genital warts" like what popped up at work once. i think i know who she is, too.

Wow what is up with all the hate?! The dude broke up with a girl, there is nothing wrong with that. What do you want him to do, do you think he should be forced to stay with her out of some crazy obligation? Now he has changed his mind, he can give it a shot. She may not be interested but maybe she will be.

Really could’ve been avoided if people just sit in their assigned fucking seats. I have some nasty flight anxiety but I put my big girl panties on and deal with my assigned seat even if it’s not next to my partner.