I was going to post something similar, with a little more.

Some guys don’t like to initiate. I’m that way, I don’t like the standard way of dating. Most of my relationships were me being pursued. I don’t think that’s a problem at all. Different? Yes, doesn’t make the relationship any less.

Listen youngling. As someone through it all. Dont confuse love and marriage. Fuck marriage. It really is a shitty paper. Getting a divorce is so much harder. I found out the hard way. Seems like you found a sensible partner. Dont fuck it up.

True love is not a thing, stop believing in fairy tales. The head over heels in love feeling is an adrenaline response, that's why you have "fight flight or freeze" happening when you're trying to ask out a crush as a teenager.

Once you become comfortable with someone your love will turn into a more compassionate and nurturing love. If it doesn't you're likely in a one sided relationship and constantly on edge because you are unsure if they feel the same way.

As others have said, marriage is over romanticized....and if nothing else there are tax and social benefits (you can make medical decisions for your partner if they are not capable, etc) to getting married. Possibly bring up those practical aspects if it comes to it.

As others have said, don't ruin a good thing by getting stuck in your head.

This did not happen

Even i dont know what happened

"Hi I have everything I could want and check off all the boxes but I'm not happy cuz I want it all!"

Bro he is opening up to you and it is emotionally, it just doesn't fit your own narrative in your head. You rehearse the scenario playing out over and over again in your head this specific way, so you're now upset because it isn't that. All I hear in this is me me Me me!! Absolute zero consideration for how he feels, his own perspective, accepting him as he is etc. you are immature and childish and now you're pushing him away becuse you're not getting what you want. Grow up or let him go so he can make someone who actually cares about their relationship and not just themselves happy.

Forgot she left the plug in but conveniently took the remote?

Didn't notice the plug over night, while getting ready, driving to work, at work?

Either the plug was in on purpose and accidentally got turned on, or this is creative writing.

She supposedly forgot about it, yet happened to have the remote? And randomly started vibrating in a meeting? This story is fiction

Y'all definitely have a healthy relationship.

R/ihavesex

And for good reason. How many people go to marriages to either:

1: Drink on someone else's dime

2: to inflict their own beliefs onto the couple

Weddings aren't for the bride and groom, if they were, they wouldn't send the couple in debt.

A gas leak either way?

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Those embers came from a hot flame by continuously feeding it wood…

Whoa whoa whoa, you have sex?
That's not a "practical" relationship. It's romantic, emotional, and physical.

Marriage is basically just a ceremony, a ritual. Fuck it.
Unless you're talking LEGAL MARRIAGE, which is a legal arrangement with lots of fine print and legalese about assets and how they are shared, divided, etc.

The paperwork, the ritual, what is it? What do you really want? And why is it SOOOOO incredibly symbolic to you? Notice its not symbolic to a lot of other people?

People get married, people get divorced. The difference is that people who are actually in love stick together. You said that you want ACTUAL love because he's supposed to want to marry you. Hello? You're having sex and stuff, that's love. That's actual. That's more actual than marriage. Marriage does NOT make that more actual. Not one bit.

What you really want to know is if he's ready to go long term with you and spend the rest of his life together. So ask him that, specifically. Marriage is NOT part of that conversation. Period. Find out what you need to know without getting confused about it.

He's young, he's going to say stupid stuff without knowing the depth of it, like the marriage talk you had. You need to talk to him and explain point by point, what's serious, how serious, why serious. Also explain that he needs to be on a commitment path that has some kind of end point and destination, like being able to say how ready he is and at what time.

Try replacing the word marriage with something along the line of, "Are you ready to put a baby in me, because I will leave your ass if that doesn't happen within X years or if you're not continually on a path toward making that happen. It matters. Period."

Then give him lots of time to think about it if he hasn't already.

That sounds like a personal problem. If you want to sit next to your kid—pay for it. I paid extra for my husband and I to sit together on our honeymoon. No sympathy for the parent who isn’t sitting with their kid. Unless an emergency happens and they get jumbled around.

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No, but at the time, I didn't know. I just knew the kid thought it was funny that he would hand a Chromebook snapped in half to one of my techs saying "oops, I need a new one." I'm not sure if the principal knew, but he clearly had run ins with the kids several times.

I didn't know about Asperger's until this year, when a new neighbor moved in. Great guy, but something out of whack and he takes out frustration on anything around him.

Excuse me but what names were changed?

Tbh I felt like moving in together had so much more impact on my day to day live than marriage. Do you expect anything to change after a wesding? For me it definitely didn't, and that's awesome and just the way we wanted it. Because the relationship should be good enough for the rest of your life to begin with. Just saying it out loud to a lot of people you know isn't meant for everyone. I never liked attention in my life and I would shit my pants at the idea of a wedding.

It sounds like you are afraid that he isn't as committed as you are. Just because he doesn't like the idea of a wedding doesn't mean hes not committed though. Take a step back, and try to analyse what you feel.

Is it the fear of his commitment? Is the rest of the relationship crumbling down or still strong? Do you want to marry him, or do you mostly want to get married?

I hope you'll figure it out! Maybe he's ready to spend the rest of his life with you, he just doesn't show it the same way as you!

Preach!!!!

#neversatisfied. He checks all the boxes but...

Girl, this IS a loving relationship. It sounds like you want someone who makes a big show out of getting married and makes sweeping gestures of romance, and he wants a loving relationship with a partner he considers his best friend.

A word of caution: the relationships are all about infatuation and grand gestures flame out pretty quickly. The ones based on being best friends are the ones that last.

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I would give it some time. I things are going well, let it be for now. Many people are not ready to even consider marriage at 24. It is not at all unusual. I know my husband wouldn't have said he would never ever marry at 24. By the time I met him at 30, things were different.

It sounds like marriage is important to you, and that's fine. Give this guy some time. Give yourself some time to see if you really do love him, and you're just reacting to the disappointment at the moment.