She's bought the "true love" myth from the romance media and industry and doesn't understand the problems are caused by the unrealistic expectations placed by it.

Thank you.

Except I don't have a problem. I honestly wouldn't mind sitting apart but I'm not a selfish monster and assume it's better for the people that get stuck next to a whiny kid the whole flight so I inform them at the gate.

It's a cash grab for the airlines.

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Traditionally, weddings are paid for at least in part by the couples families. Unfortunately not every family is able to pay.

I think weddings are definitely over priced and there’s still some societal pressure. However, people in the younger generations are definitely changing the way we do things.

Smaller weddings, non traditional weddings, and eloping are all becoming more and more common. I would never force or coerce a partner into a we’d ceremony they don’t want to participate in.

Personally, if someone came and was being a nuisance, I’d kick them out no problem.

Im with my man since 1998... not married, 2 kids, we're having a good life.. we are ''engaged'' (Meaning we just gave each other a ring) aand that it... we dont need the stupid paper to know that we love each other.... So if he loves you and you lovee him, why screw it all for debts and a paper ,,, you dont need that to prove your love

Directly from the State Department website:

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/need-passport/under-16.html

Children Under 16

All children under age 16 must apply for a passport in person with two parents or guardians using Form DS-11. You cannot renew your child's passport using Form DS-82. Passports for children under age 16 are only valid for 5 years.

meh, sounds like they are both pretty insecure... OP here is the one who got all put out that this guy went to a strip club before he even met her 🙄

I think that’s beautiful. Backyard wedding are actually pretty common these days.

I’m not religious so if I ever get married, I think I’d want it to be in a beautiful outdoor location rather than a church.

Os are hugs

Yeah... this is bs. Literally no way you wouldn't notice they were still there.

Saying you got one before the relationship and didn’t even enjoy is a far cry from bragging about something. What even is there to brag about with a lapdance? The stripper is literally just doing her job, its like bragging about going through the checkout line.

dear penthouse…..

That's beautiful. Hopefully my girlfriend is down for something similar, I don't wanna deal with the other bs

Because usually those pushing for it have nothing to lose and something to gain.

I was on some flight, separated from my husband. Someone asked me to switch because they were separated from their partner, and whatever, there was no reason for me to say no. Turned out they were next to my husband, so we each got to sit with our SO.

As someone who's been to weddings of 200 people and also 8 people, the wedding is typically not for you and your partner. It's usually a large waste of money to spend 3-4 minutes talking with relatives you didn't bother to speak to for the last few years.

The most intimate wedding I went to was the incredibly small event with 8 of us, we all sat and spoke over a meal, we enjoyed the day. There was no white dress, no groomsmen or bridesmaids, a cake made by the bride herself. It was a true "showing of love" between two people.

I would question why you feel a "large display of love" in a public setting is necessary. Fiscally speaking, weddings are disastrous, it usually kills off the more responsible outlooks of home deposits or preparing for a child. It is a lot of faff. It's akin to a very expensive valentines day, if your partner thinks just showing love on significant days is what they should do, this is a red flag, if they're willing to show love and be kind and compassionate without the need for a public event this is a win and something to be thankful for.

It feels as if you've internalised some big day in a white dress to constitute love, it is an old notion which had it's part in society as it gave some legal rights to women who didn't have them in the event of the husband dying. As to why you feel it necessary feels more alien to me than him not wanting one.

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It's important to remember that it's okay to have doubts and to question whether this relationship is right for you. It's also okay to want someone who is emotionally open and wants the same things as you, including marriage.

How did you get dressed then without noticing? I don't buy it.

apparently it really did happen ik its a little unrealistic but i cant help it

This is a difficult issue. You say the sex is great and he’s a good friend, I can’t think of a better set up for a long term relationship. I married my best friend and couldn’t be happier, but it sounds like he isn’t fulfilling some of your needs emotionally. Believe people when they tell you who they are. He is telling you he isn’t overly emotional and doesn’t care about marriage. I would believe him. He is not going to suddenly wake up and change.

Communication is key. 24 is also really young for a man is this day and age. He may not want to think about marriage for a while. Or maybe he will. Communicate with him, not Reddit.

This is such a quality comment. 👏

Well mofuckers should stop asking to swap otherwise the guy wouldve approached you and said hey, your in my seat, and be done with it. So fuck that, its everyone elses fault, not just yours.

So big issue i am seeing is that u r focused on the wedding and he lacks interest. This is followed by him not being enotionally open.

As for the wedding, he has a valid point with his concerbs. As men, we r normally screwed in any kind of divorce and short of some tax stuff and easier for children, we dobt really get much out of it that we couldnt get with just a dedicated dating relationship. His concerns may seem disheartening but remember that if he married u and somethinf happen he could b set to lose alot if u chose to b bitter in divorce. That level of risk is massive.

Next is the emotional state. It sucks he doesnt share his emotions but it is important to consider how men r socialized. We r taught early in life to toughen up (or man up depending on prefeted term) and deal with whatever happens. We r taught that being emotionally vulnerable is a sign of weakness to b avoided. He may have had previous relationships that burned him the moment he shown weakness. Maybe he feels embarressed or guilty trying to share, thinking he is just burdening u with his problems unnecessarily. U can attempt to reassure him in general but i can almost guarentee that, if he is uncomfortable with the marriage idea, the more u push for marriage the less he will b open. I wont give a what u should do cause i dont have enough info to do that but in general try to keep their perspective in mind and if u dont understand do as u have and ask questions. They will tell u, probably quickly, what they would prefer u do and u have to decide if it is worth it for u.