I mean if he doesnt jump from joy...maybe he just doesnt like the idea of wasting money? Have you ever thought that maybe he is content with how things are and he doesnt need a contract for that? Almost all of your posts are about your feelings. Not sure why you are so obsessed with that idea. He seems pretty normal.

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I did that on the dance floor of a small concert in NYC once. Everyone was jammed in tight in the first 5 'rows', but there was still room to dance a little. There was no way for me to exit the crowded dance floor in time, so I just let it rip. And of course nobody could hear it over the music. When it started to spread like over the crowd like napalm, I just looked around puzzled and annoyed just like everyone else was doing. Luckily after about 5 minutes it dissipated. Not my proudest moment, but I really had no choice. :)

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edit: This could be a TIFU, but it was 15 years ago. ;)

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Thank you. We will talk about these things. :)

A few years ago I got to my seat to find someone in it and they had the aisle seat on the other side.

Probably honest mistake I thought when they said and they were already settled so I got settled in theirs.

Plugged my phone into the usb and it wasn't working and noticed hers has been in the usb the whole time, probably noticed before take off and then swapped so she could charge.

Not the end of the world, but was banking on the full charge I'd get from the flight.

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In real life, you have to do 90% of the work, my dude

I’ll tell him he has another customer!

I don’t expect anything to change from getting married. Getting married to save a relationship sounds like an awful idea.

I’ve had long term relationships before. I know that infatuation fades. I’m not naive.

Not everyone is as naive as you think they are.

Sounds like you are definitely in a loving relationship then, you two could maybe talk about love language. The way that you feel loved and the way you show your love to him and visa versa. Either way I think you can figure that out as the foundation of your relationship sounds pretty solid :)

Another tip could be that you can write down what you want to hear from him? That he is looking for someone in his life that he might spend the rest of his life with. Not yet, but let him say it out loud that it's just the marriage part he doesn't like. He probably does see you as a potential life partner, even though you're both not ready to decide that.

And overthinking doesn't have to bad! Makes you a critical thinker, less likely of doing something impulsive. Shows you're smart too.

I don't know. Him crushing you like that when he didn't need to, sounds more like he was trying to passive aggressively punish you for asking about it. I would question what else he does to keep you in line.

Only identity thieves care as much as you’re worried about, but you can’t really stop them anyways.

They go as far as walking up to homes and stealing people’s mail right out of their mailboxes.

Don't worry about it. It was just a little funny.

Some women may do that but I’d say that’s a very small minority. Most women, yes the ones wanting marriage, aren’t doing so for financial gain.

No, it helps you ensure you are emotionally and mentally prepared for marriage. It also helps work out any kinks in your relationship. It’s proven to reduce divorce rates.

Yeah I would never ask anyone to switch their end seat for a middle and I would almost definitely decline if someone wanted me to switch from an end to a middle seat.

I rarely ask to switch seats personally myself, I meant I inform the airline agent and they switch things around on the computer.

> If you book together by default you should sit together.

Agreed, if it's available. And you should be informed whether it is or not at booking time.

Whose the boomer now... Jk I'm glad you were able to figure out what went wrong! Technology these days, makes things so convenient but also inconvenient 🤣

Thank you. Your comment has helped.

You got me questioning this saying. I do hear people tell boys to put their “big boy pants” on but more often girls get told to put their “big girl panties” on…

Yes, you start sucking on skin, purposefully, with intent. That's the only way a hickey happens. He intended to give her hickeys. They don't "just happen".

We would both like a smaller wedding. Weddings are expensive. I would love that, with a wedding dress I made myself. I want that display of affection, party and all. But it’s only real and meaningful to me if it’s with someone with whom you have a healthy happy relationship.