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intolerablefem t1_ja870rj wrote

You don’t. You leave her alone. You wanted to have your cake and eat it too. This blew up in your face spectacularly. Now deal with it. You aren’t owed a second chance just because you see the error in your ways. If you really liked girl 1 so much, you wouldn’t have allowed yourself to be easily distracted by girl two.

Also, seems like you only value women based on their attractiveness. Are you twelve? You don’t sound mature enough to be dating.

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iAmBalfrog t1_ja85bs2 wrote

In your post you haven't listed a single negative thing this man is doing outside of having a progressive view on weddings. You can ask any number of married men and women whether 10-15 years later butterflies still exist daily. He seems like a relatively nice guy, you seem to be set on a wedding, he seems to be okay with marriage but thinks a wedding is a public display for what he thinks should be private.

Neither of you are in the wrong for having a preference, but I doubt he would break up with you for making an off handed comment, whereas that seems to be your logical go to. Hence the large amount of comments disagreeing with you.

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iAmBalfrog t1_ja84lb8 wrote

It's not so much doing it for financial gain, but they typically don't have as large a financial risk.

Now this isn't inherently in the wrong, women do give up opportunities typically to become a SAHP. But there are a lot more stories of men going into debt to fund alimony than the other way round.

There's also plenty of high profile stories where it's hard to believe that say MacKenzie Scott would have earnt $38.3billion had she not been in a relationship with Jeff Bezos, yet marrying him and later divorcing him netted her that worth.

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