I’m a chemist, and have now done some drug discovery research; but when my mom died of cancer I was only in undergrad. I still feel guilty for not being able to save her even though it’s rather absurd to think I could have.

So I very much agree. Grief can make us feel things we cognitively know are irrational.

I remembered 400 users passwords through 35 different customers. from my time when IT would know your password, I would not necessarily remember it when I was not in front of their computer, but I could look at their desk, and go this kid, that dog02, or is it 03 by now. Serial numbers of products when I was assembling computers installation keys for windows 98 SE... My wife asks me to bring a loaf of bread home, and i put it in my phone as a reminder. because I will forget.

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Thanks for the laugh there. 😂😂

I think because acknowledging it to the person, in his mind, would be making “moving on” a reality. It would mean it was really in the past. Grief can absolutely haunt the way someone perceives the world, even in ways that seem silly after.

She is 31 F according to her previous post

All yoy can do is apologize

Not gonna lie, this miscommunication is heartbreaking.

I’m also lactose intolerant and have tried almond milk and soy milk, not a fan. You can get lactose free cow’s milk though, doesn’t taste exactly the same but it’s the closest

Username does say "tifuwife"...

Yeah I’m just worried cuz it’s my best friend’s girlfriend you know. I don’t wanna be in bad terms with her.

He’s going to be marrying this girl

Next time, try soaking their dry food in water, maybe mush it around if you need to.

There are far more black rappers and it was dress up as your favourite, she should have specified "within your own culture " you even asked 2 black people if it was okay. Don't lose sleep over this lol

What makes you think OP is a she?

I’m guessing she thought people would dress up as their culture and stuff. Lkke all the white kids got Eminem , Harlow and Mac Miller and a few vanilla ice

That's really messed up. You can't even leave your shit for 15 minutes.

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Ah Roxann

What a scumbag act. Hopefully you'll see somebody wearing your good shirt. Then it's 'Hammer Time'

What did she think was going to happen when hosting a dress up like a RAPPER party?

People of weak mind will find anything to be offended about. Best to avoid those people.

I can 100% understand not wanting to "relive" it, but OP's husband said that talking about it would make him feel like he's forgetting his husband. I don't think that's really the same thing. Someone else gave a more plausible explanation, but grief convinces people of all kinds of things, so ultimately, it's probably useless attempting to reason through something like this coming from someone I don't know.

Dreads aren't even a specifically black thing. She just wants to be offended for the sake of being offended.

best Goosebumps ever!

Keep the faith. You both can do this.