Recent comments in /f/tifu

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacxxdw wrote

Reply to comment by Hot-Tone-7495 in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

I hate that my decision will hurt my wife more. I wish my daughters future could have included both of us but I screwed that up.

I want to give my daughter the best future and I don’t think my wife will have the means to raise 1 let alone 2 children on her own to a level more than just getting by

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Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacxjk1 wrote

Reply to comment by BitterBloodedDemon in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

Wife will be overseas and living with parents who will be (rightly so) hostile. Visits are out of the question.

I’m glad your situation worked out. I am sure my wife could get a stable income but it won’t ever amount to enough to do more than just get by.

I hate that taking the daughter would hurt my wife even more but in my mind I’m doing it to give my daughter the best care for the future. I wish I could involve my wife as well but I screwed up way too much for that to happen.

I understand this is a selfish decision but I mean it for the welfare of my daughter

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spoolthirtytwo t1_jacxaz9 wrote

Reply to TIFU by being a greedy scavenger at work. by Deadeye26

If OP is in the US, it's likely that 'scavenging' parts is not allowed at all. Dumb rule, but PCs are usually depreciated assets, taxed as having no value, and destroyed. They can't be donated or given away under any official policy without running the risk of a taxation issue.

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Usually the situation is that they're "left" somewhere that everyone knows about, and whatever doesn't walk off while the corporate back is turned gets recycled. I'm guessing OP wanted to get the jump on the scavengers by grabbing something good, and got burned. Policy as written is "nobody can have this stuff, under any circumstances" even though the de facto situ is that people can grab what they want as long as they're lowkey about it.

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OurMasterAM t1_jacwyy4 wrote

Reply to comment by Odd_Ad_5639 in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

You could give her a good life - but could you give her the best life she can have?

It sounds like the mother is better at caring for her, and she's more attached to her mother. It may be a "if you love her, let her go" situation - let her life with the parent that'll give her the best life. Ask the wife if you can pay child support, so that way you can take some of the burden off your wife and support your child.

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Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacwxp8 wrote

Reply to comment by peweje in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

I respect what you say and I see how it would be the most civilised thing to do.

I can’t say that the child would definitely have a better life with the mother so I can’t let go.

I’ve fked up so bad here I don’t deserve anything but I think I can provide a positive and fulfilling life for my daughter regardless.

Nobody would ever believe me but i would never make a third mistake

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BitterBloodedDemon t1_jacwrk4 wrote

Reply to comment by Odd_Ad_5639 in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

You have better resources to provide right now, that says nothing for the future.

When my ex-husband and I split he had a job, and the credentials and potential for better ones. Due to the nature of the split he took our son with him.

I got my son back 6 months later. I was still unemployed and continued to be so for the following 9 months after I got him back.

It's now 10 years later. I'm a salaried employee, have had a stable income for the last 9 years. My son is well provided for, while my ex struggles to hold a job and who's situation is fluctuating regularly.

I won't say you can or can't save this. Odds are not in your favor though... you need therapy, just for starts. But the least you can do, for all the damage you've done, is NOT try to hurt your wife more by taking her child away.

MAYBE if you're amicable enough you can still salvage a relationship with your kid. Visits and stuff.

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