Didn't think of that. Sucks

Yeah I'm usually fine the next day

My wife did this to me once. Was not pleasant.

You’re not wrong with anything you said

I have no words to explain why I did it a second time.

I am very ashamed of my behaviour and I wouldn’t do it a third time even if I hadn’t been caught.

I’m aware I’m a failure as a human being

"Accident"

My daughter is 19 months old and doesn’t have a voice yet.

My wife already resents me and for good reason. The last thing I want to do is hurt her more but I need to consider both my wife and my daughters interests

Take it and run. You could also have a vibe with Chucky's face on it. I'm just all ideas and no action.

Then why’d you do it more than once? If you felt so ashamed what was the reason you did it again? Your shame must not have been too big.

“I’ve already missed too much work this month.” Proceeds to get shit hammered the night before work. I don’t feel sorry for you.

Welp. I came here to say what everyone else has already said so I’ll keep it short. You cheated, you deserve the divorce. You also knew that if you did it again she would move back home and take your kid. So you deserve that too. You’re a piece of sh*t for even thinking about trying to take the kid away.

The best upbringing would have been with you and mom together, but you made the decision to screw her mother over and now you want to continue to do that? Do you WANT her to resent you? The way you speak sounds a lot like you just think you’re better than your wife. She (daughter) wouldn’t be in danger. Have you considered asking your daughter what she prefers?

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'carefully'.

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It’s none of those things. My country has more freedom, more nature, a less oppressive culture.

Her country isn’t bad but I think mine is better.

This is all my fault. I’m not disputing that at all. My wife and my daughter will suffer because of what I did but I want to minimise the suffering my daughter experiences by providing her the best upbringing I or my wife can

Been there, done that… Ended up driving to DFW to catch the next plane.

You cheated on her, that’s what. You broke up your marriage so you could get off, and put your own daughter in a tough situation because you’re selfish. That’s how.

If your wife is moving to this new country on her own accord, then she probably knows what she’s doing. You saying it’s not a good environment means nothing. Is it war torn? Oppressive? What’s so bad about where’s she’s moving other than that it’s away from you.

I would love for that to happen. I really would. I wish I could make it happen but it’s just not going to happen.

Unfortunately it will be only one of us. That’s the reality my actions have created

She wanted to move anyway. What I did cause her to decide to move now without me. It’s what I deserve but perhaps not what my daughter deserves.

It’s not completely about finances. My wife has an apartment she can live in in her home country

I'm aware of what you stated about her possibly leaving but your daughter needs both of you not one of the other.

This is a lovely story and also a beautiful advertisement for that tea, Kroger should send your mum some for free.

Do you mean “infuriating”?

No. No one is infuriated, no one is commenting “hate”. These are just factual statements.

It’s okay, not everyone has to be impressed with your post lol

And guess who did that? You did. You chose to cheat, which is forcing her to move countries. That’s 100% on you. So wether or not you don’t think it’s a good environment, YOURE the one who caused that situation. Since you’re so well off why not buy your wife an apartment in your country? You really seem like the worst.

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