You are right. She will probably resent me when I give the the truth eventually about what happened.

That doesn’t change the fact that I think I can give her a better life than my wife could.

What my daughter decides to do when she’s an adult is out of my hands. I can only try to let her have the best upbringing possible under the circumstances (which I am aware are completely my fault)

Sigh. I’m really sorry you’re this way. If your account of this story is this bad I can only imagine your wife’s side.

You have an opportunity to change, you really do. But the entirety of your responses are “my hands are tied I guess, I know I’m an asshole but gosh darn it, I’m doing what’s best for me I mean my daughter!!

I really sympathize with your wife. You’re emotionally manipulative and you seem to know it but have no idea how to stop being that way. I hope this thread was at least a little bit of a wake up call for you because the one suffering the most by your ignorance, is your daughter. Good luck dude, I really hope everyone in this situations lives improve

Yeah, I needed a day off for an interview and started going into detail about my 'colonoscopy.' I was told to take as much time as I needed.

He says in the comments that his wife is pregnant. Probably, she figured out about STI during standard pregnancy follow-up tests.

But I agree that this TIFU sub is mostly creative writing at this point and a very bad one! Like we had a post about a forgotten tampon a couple of days ago, and then there were all these stories followed about forgotten bandages and butt plugs! and whatnot

Look. If you end up getting full custody of your daughter (which you definitely don't deserve) odds are when she grows up she will resent the fact you cheated on her mom amd gave her a STI while pregnant and still insisted on taking full custody.

Get people to meditate a custody agreement or something if you won't do the kind thing and let your wife take her. You gave your pregnant wife a STI and still think that your daughter would have a better life with you. I'm sorry but no.

Couldn't they just as easily argue that he should go to a park for stargazing? We're all allowed to live on our property as we choose... whether it be with blinds/shades open or stargazing aren't we?

Yeah. I tend to avoid women that have dumped me for other men. It’s a whole Pandora’s box. This is all too common. Men have to abide by the social rules that women create in the dating scene and can’t be themselves until WAAAY later in the process. It’s why if you’re feeling so attached, distract yourself. If she truly loves you, she’ll come back. Though, she went on to call you repulsive and bad mouth you to your friends. If the night didn’t go as she expected, and if it’s true that you acted like a couple the next morning, she was either using you, has a messed up way of thinking; or was genuinely trying to avoid the emotional aspects. People use people for their own insecurities, physical, or emotional needs. People are shitty, BUT there’s a silver lining! Not everyone is shitty. You just happened to meet one person who can hide it well.

Also, the whole rescinding consent during the action I get. Drunk sex is not consensual in any way. If she had rescinded her consent AFTER the fact, I’d be prepared for anything.

Salvage what friendships you deem important and those who you think will believe in you. Cut out the others, move on with your life. Easier said than done. Took me YEARS. You got this.

Ask him to marry you and then show her the message where he calls you crazy and says he doesn’t even know you…and then break down in tears. That should buy you some sympathy

Thank you for your advice. I will be doing this (the lawyer part).

I know what I deserve and I’ll have to work to do the best I can, knowing I created all of this mess

If you do the math, they would have arrived an hour and a half early were it not for traffic.

You should do 2 things ASAP.

1. get a divorce lawyer. A good one. Follow their advice completely. Fight for your daughter. What you do in the next few months is likely to be permanent. Don't make terrible decisions because you feel you deserve shit.

2. see a therapist/counsellor so you can deal with all these emotions, and stop beating yourself up.

Reminds me of the time my aunt visited for the first time in years and put a heaping spoonful of grilling salt in her coffee. My dad loved to grill and kept a big jar of salt on the counter for that with a spoon in it. My aunt visited and after making coffee assumed it was sugar and mixed a spoonful into her coffee and got a huge surprise when she drank her cup of salt.

because this is a sub about fuck ups.

This is quite the fuck up, perhaps hall of fame.

Wife is relocating to her country. That’s non negotiable unfortunately. Daughter is young now but i need to make the decision based on her whole life not her current age

I don't know your family background but I wonder if this is your mum blowing this up to 1000% to scare you so you don't send anyone nudes.

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This, who wouldn't let their daughter marry D34th_gr1nd ? It s not even a question really

What’s best for your very young daughter is to be with her mother. If you truly want what’s best for your baby, try talking to your wife about maybe relocating in the same country. Work something out, but a kid that young needs it’s mother.

Those are for nice summer days. I mean allergy season.

Tell your mom that you're going to marry me instead. It's an open marriage of course, and we don't plan on meeting irl.

Nah, that’s what sick days are for.

Do a Ferris Bueller and have sound effects ready to go as well.

These did come clean though! I was surprised they weren't "scotchguarded" as old as the sofa appears to be.

Yup. I know people are all different and trust can be a funny thing, but handle it like an adult and don't sit there and assume the worst without even checking on it. At best they are saved by having an understanding partner like here, at worst they get into a massive fight and op ends up torpedoing a relationship because they couldn't handle a simple like an adult.

oooohhh. I didn't think of that.