Nah

Why, in God's name, would you think it'd be OK to put them in the dryer? What if your SO put a linen outfit of yours through the dryer?

I was very fond of that bitch though...😔

i really hope your account is just a secret one where you post sexual…stuff because you can’t speak or discuss it in person and not just solely used to attract those who fetishise this sort of thing

I'm gonna save you some money, you absolutely do not need to make your solution that strong. It can easily be 50/50 if not honestly like 25/75 most of that being water. I live in an area where I literally need to descale my kettle like every other week or the water is coming out with flakes in it. It's perfectly clean with a fairly weak solution boiled in the kettle.

Nah why are people down voting (it's my turn right?)

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Hey, if you want the video, I can pay an extra $99 for the tape. If you want to cover that, I'll buy it for you. We can all sit in the lunch room and watch it together.

That's actually how they typically work - revolution of an off-axis weight.

I’m listening. I hear all the hate and I accept all of it. I know this is all my fault and I deserve to die alone.

I can only do what’s best for my daughter. If I end up alone it’s nothing more than what I deserve. Until then I hope I can do as much for my daughter as I can

If you want to continue stargazing with the binoculars you could simply use something to block their windows from your view. A standing screen would probably do the trick.

You aren't listening to any commentors. I highly doubt any judge will give you full custody when they hear you cheated on your wife when she had a baby and then gave her a STI while she is pregnant. Congrats on the future irreparable relationship with your daughter. May she have a good life with your wife and future sibling.

It split custody would work id go for it but I know that when my wife gets on the plane I’m never seeing her or my daughter ever again.

My daughter is young and has a natural bond with the mother. I need to make the decision based on her entire childhood, not just her current age.

My decisions are definitely not to spite my wife. I am extremely sorry about what I have put her through and the last thing I want is to put her through more pain but I need to take the emotion out of it all and focus on what I think is best for my daughter.

She may very well end up hating me. I deserve no less. I can’t control that but I can give her the best upbringing I can and then let her make her decisions when she is old enough

I didn’t realise my mum had used vinegar to descale our kettle too. All I knew was “something smells of vinegar here” and that “oh, good, there’s hot water already in the kettle!”

I used that hot water to make up a formula bottle for my then 3 month old. Thankfully, I always do a double temperature test - drop on the wrist and then a drop on the tongue.

Thanks to that I figured out what the vinegar smell was… and didn’t subject poor baby to drinking vinegar milk.

That wouldn’t be what’s best for my daughter so I can’t do that.

I hate that my wife suffers because of my actions and I wish I could take it back but I can’t so I need to focus on my daughter’s upbringing

People still split custody in ways if they live in separate countries. Heck you could even have her over summers/holidays. Your wife has a better bond with her per your post and you want to take your daughter away from her. At this point it sounds like you are just trying to be spiteful to your wife. Your daughter will most likely walk away from you. Honestly it's not upto you about what the environment will be better or not that's your wife's home country and she should know if it's safe or not or suitable for a toddler to live.

Then give it to her without a fight.

My hands are not tied. I am making the best decision I can for my daughter. Unfortunately it hurts my wife.

I hate myself for what my wife has to go through but I need to put emotions aside and see what is best for my daughter

It’s not completely about the money. It’s the whole environment.

I know that I completely ruined this family and it’s my fault. That doesn’t prevent me from giving my daughter the love and care she deserves.

She may probably decide to walk away from me at some point. I deserve it. Until then I can only give her the best upbringing I can.

I would go for split custody if I could but the wife is 100% leaving for her country so that won’t work

"you are on a forum that does not understand just how dangerous this could be". That is very true, people have accused me of lying because this sounds so bizzare to them. When in reality, far worse happens to many others. My family tend to be fairly vague about consequences, so I can never know for sure what could happen. I am thankfully seeking help though.

Again “my hands are tied”. You seem self aware only of your past mistakes but not of the ones you’re currently making. Which is probably why you cheated a second time after feeling “so much remorse”.

Look. Money DOES NOT mean anyone would have a good life. They need love and care and to be brought up correctly. And that includes leading by example. Heck even if your daughter hears about it when she is a teen or younger you're gonna be in a world of trouble. Go for split custody at the very best (which you still dont deserve).

I did not have “My sextoy becomes sentient” on my 2023 bingo card

I’m being 100% honest so my wife’s side is probably not too dissimilar from mine.

I’m as fked up as it sounds, but I can only try to do what’s best from here for my daughter

One of the hardest things about some highly conservative cultures is that they are often unclear about just how dangerous certain behavior is. They will say things are "sinful" or "forbidden" or "disgusting", but won't be clear about what the consequence is. Will you be ignored for a while? Will you be forced into a marriage? Will you be beaten? Worse (honor killings do still happen)? There's no book of laws that details which things are prohibited and what the possible consequences will be. A person with a semi-supportive family might be cloistered, a person with a less supportive family might be ignored until someone snaps.

You are on a forum that does not understand just how dangerous this could be. Few people from such conservative cultures are on reddit, and they don't talk openly about this stuff anyways. I doubt you know what the possible consequences are. Please be careful. If there is safe help to be had, find it. If escape is possible (it is if you are in a democracy, but other countries may have support organizations), consider it.