He did mention that he’s had sex before though, not regularly. Also you would surprised at how many girls don’t learn how to give good head, most of them think they’re doing well bc their partner is too afraid to tell them they need some practice… or they just don’t like doing it at all. P.S. I don’t think any woman wants to hear ‘it’s my fist time’.

Apparently it’s more common with people that are circumcised.

I don't believe it was about scamming me out of money. Tbh i've seen ads for jobs that claim to be "website moderator" but in actuality you get paid 70 cents for each sexual message you send to someone, thus the longer you keep them on the hook the more you earn. My mistake was that the person seemed too genuine to me. There was even periods where they didn't msg me for a few days.

She wasn't messaging me that much at first, there was even a point where i didn't hear from her for 3 days and triple texted her before she told me sorry i've been so busy and exhausted at work.

That's the uphill battle op has now. There are so many guys who talk such a big game when it comes to sex, only to bring nothing to the table. That's what she is probably thinking this is.

OP didn’t “break her trust”. It was accidental. Saying he broke her trust would suggest he intended to prematurely ejaculate. Except he didn’t mean to.

You don’t know, gotcha.

I think what you need is to lighten up haha

Go to TwoX and see what most women actually think about men cumming in their mouths without any warning or prior discussion please.

She doesn't know it was non-malicious. How could she possibly know that? He claimed he could go for hours and then came all over her almost immediately, without any prior discussion or warning. He broke her trust and it turned her all the way off. It's totally predictable, not "incongruous".

BTW sex is not "supposed to be nasty". You need to talk to your partners about what they actually want and watch less porn.

NGL I really thought he meant an actual catfish

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The end goal usually revolves around money. Establish that she is a doctor and thus gainfully employed. Then concoct an emergency where she doesn't have access to funds and needs to borrow, with you coming as the knight in shining armor to save the one you love, and her promising to pay you back. Rinse and repeat.

Or it can be a creep getting thrills out of fooling people.

OK so this is sort of based on what VicePrincipalNero said Well, maybe she was expecting a long dirty weekend with lots of sex and was a bit disappointed it was over so quickly esp as you talked it up (cos you thought it would take time) so yeah next time definitely focus on getting her off first. Hope she forgives you.

I think the biggest alarm here should have been at the beginning, when she said she was having to cover other doctors work, but then could be free to message 9 hours a day? Definitely not going to have that kind of time as a doctor, let alone an anesthesiologist

Whatever. Just don't unload into anybody's mouth without any warning unless you've discussed it beforehand and know that they're enthusiastically into that kind of thing.

Her reaction to this and her “casual approach to the topic of sex” seem a little incongruent haha. Sex is supposed to be fun and a little nasty, something so non malicious like this accident happening and her acting totally shocked from someone cumming in her mouth I don’t know man I wouldn’t be beating yourself up if this doesn’t work out there’s better out there

If she didn't want a mouthful of jizz and for her sexy outfit to be covered in jizz, it's totally understandable that she cleaned herself up and left. "What usually happens" when you break the trust of a brand new partner by doing something like that without any warning or prior agreement is that she isn't into it any more and wants to leave, and probably not come back for more. Which is exactly what happened here.

That doesn't mean it's not salvageable, he's just going to have to work pretty hard to rebuild that trust if he ever wants a "round 2". And he's going to have to sincerely apologize for the unexpected jizzy surprise and tell her the honest truth about why he thought he wouldn't immediately cum as soon as she paid a little attention to his knob.

Her reaction to this and her “casual approach to the topic of sex” seem a little incongruent haha. Sex is supposed to be fun and a little nasty, something so non malicious like this accident happening and her acting totally shocked from someone cumming in her mouth I don’t know man I wouldn’t be beating yourself up if this doesn’t work out there’s better out there

Lightening always cums before the thunder

This is my thought here.

I don't really know why the freak out and leave. You shouldn't put a willy in your mouth if you aren't prepared for the "repercussions" lol

It kind of irritates me she just left, that's pretty cold to the guy who ALSO was in a sensitive/emotional situation. And then to lie about it and say "something came up"

Woman here..are men expected to give a warning when they're coming from head? Isn't that...expected? I've never gone down on my then boyfriend now husband and expected a "warning." I mean ..that is the whole point? All these comments saying to apologize, from a woman's perspective I just don't get it. I'd take it as a compliment and as long as you're willing to continue things, I'd continue.

It's over now but what have you learned from this experience? Don't trust strangers on the internet until you can confirm what they are telling you. She could have been telling the truth but all the shady stuff she was texting and excuses for not meeting or video chatting makes me seriously doubt it. The one time I tried internet dating I fell madly in love with the woman and turns out she was married and leading a double life with me. Pissed me off and I shunned dating anyone till I got to know them.

Actually OP that’s a really good idea. Maybe promise her a round 2 but you don’t get to cum till she does and pleasure her in other ways. When she’s had some fun it’s your turn. That might make up for it maybe!

I can imagine that being written on the florist card OMG!

Never made a strawman argument here. As for what nerves are in the foreskin I'm going to ask you a simple question:

Would you rather the layer of skin protecting your sensitive organ make you orgasm/hurt as much as when being hit at that organ (thus rendering rhe protection meaningless) or not?

If you answer that question, you'll know what kind of nerves there are in there.