I'm actually rolling, mans a HP fanfic loving, Elon stanning incel and he has the stones to mock someone for learning how to bench? 3 minutes with a therapist and his own reflection would fold this kid like soggy cardboard

I mean, you showed your bully you have the strength to try and fail. You showed your bully that you have friends that will help you when you struggle. I'm sure you showed him some more bad ass things as well. Don't let your insecurities talk you down like that!

This.

Use this moment to drive you. Feel that and direct it towards getting very strong. Also learn how to fight - if possible find a jiujitsu gym and learn to grapple, couple that with some boxing or even better a muay thai gym if you can find one.

Become strong and capable. Then always be the nicest and most helpful person in the room.

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Make sure to also say "What're you doing, Step-Bro?".

Just one?

> Dude, if you don’t have experience in the gym, you don’t try testing your max weight.

It’s crazy that even though this is so true, so many people try it out anyways regardless of if they have a spotter or not lol. I remember doing it as back in highschool but luckily I had a spotter.

As an extra safety measure practice the bailout method for benching. I’ve never had to use it because my gym only has power racks so it has catches, but I still practiced it just in case.

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What you describe is exactly why Target is so successful with moms. Covid stay at homes definitely hurt them for a while, because people couldn’t come and do this.

Might have some impulsivity struggles going on - if you have problems with spending, leave the cards at home and give yourself a spending envelope with only a certain amount of money in it. This’ll restrict you from purchasing more than you’re there for. Also don’t go into a store “just to look” if you have this kind of problem. Make a list, stick to the list and get out.

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You sound like such a bitter and twisted individual. I pity you.

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So edgy. You know it's often the most insecure people who are the most vocal. Find something more productive to do rather than harassing strangers over your keyboard.

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Did you take into account that the bar itself commonly weighs about 45lbs? I don't know about the local gym but my high school gym bar weighed 45, dunno about other schools. Should take that into account too. Also if there's other workout machines and options that aren't bench pressing that don't need a partner, try those.

Dude, if you don't have experience in the gym, you don't try testing your max weight.

Anything you do, you start light and slow, and progress gradually.

Pick a weight that you can do for 5-10 reps and train with that. Gradually increase the weight by little increments week by week as you get stronger, but never so much that you can't do at least 4-5 reps. That's called progressive overload, btw. Google it. It's the most important weight training concept.

Once you get comfortable with the exercise, know how to perform it, and know your limits, then you can start poking at your 1-rep-max. Though it's still pretty pointless if you don't compete. I've been training for 10 years and never attempted to lift anything heavier than what I can do for 3-4 reps.

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That’s his fault for not knocking. You did nothing wrong and he knows it.

I hope this is the moment that inspires you to be one of those gentle giant huge guys that's super nice to everyone all the time.

You'll get there with practice. Don't let anyone discourage you.

Kind of a gross advertisement for your onlyfans, but some people like gross, I guess.

My god, can we get an update on of she's text you back?

I put the clamps on only so I don’t cause a scene

Now you're upvoted? I think you're on to something.....

Like the other guy said, use a lower weight. By doing more reps at less weight, you can fatigue the muscles more. As you get stronger you can load on more weight, but for testing the upper ends of your strength you really should use a spotter.

If spotters arent available, use a bench with some sort of safety mechanism or sturdy boxes as a failsafe. Even with safety failsafes, if you cant knock out clean reps with good control, it's time to rack it until you have a spotter. I bench in an empty gym and the bench setup doesnt have anything to catch the bar if I miss a rep, so I leave the clamps off if I should ever need to dump the weight.

Strength is a habit, not a moment