You're right, fuck that.

My advice: pick out something that you're better than your bully. Maybe you're smarter. Maybe you're taller. Maybe you're a better musician. Maybe you're just a nicer person. Who knows? All I know is that there's definitely something you do better than him.

Now use that thing to gain confidence. You're letting your bully decide what's good (i.e. strength). Flip it around and focus on the things that you're good at. If he starts bullying you about the gym, just use some version of "yeah, I'd like to get stronger but it's not really my main focus. I'm focused on _____"

I get the sense you're still in high school, so I know this is easier said than done. But learning that everyone has things they're great at -- and things they're bad at -- is an important part of life and being your own person.

Lol. When I was 17 I started masturbating under my blankets and finished. I cleaned up with a towel and went to go lay back down when my mom entered the room (her footsteps were silent). I don’t remember what she said but she just came to have a nice little talk with me about her plans for the summer and started caressing the hand I whacked myself with. I just remember breaking out in a sweat because I thought she was gonna find out I had a date with myself but I guess she didn’t but I always made sure I was alone in the house after that.

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Tbh never egolift. Safety is priority number 1, lower your weights, use all safeties, etc. Hurting yourself will lower your gains more than lifting less.

I treat the gym like a treat the woodshop: humbly. Good lesson to learn early, glad you're ok.

And that is better than getting caught masturbating WITH your brother.

Ok...a few lol

Work on having good form, and always have a spotter for free weights. Higher weight will come with time and building strength, don’t rush it. Just make sure you learn from this experience, and you’re lucky you didn’t get hurt.

If the bully says anything, just tell him that you are at the start of a long battle that has the ultimate goal of getting strong enough to beat the shit out of people like him. Then thank him for keeping you motivated.

My school gym had platforms you could set to just above your chest height to catch the bar if you failed a set. Still a free bar, no guiding involved.

Don’t use clips so you can tip the weight off one side then the bar flips the other way, or learn the roll of shame. I constantly do that, it sometime drags my shorts down with it though 😂

And this kids, is why safety pins are a thing

Use them

Don't worry, and enjoy the process!

Nah fuck that

Thank you for your advice.

That is not great for benchpress, if you mean the easybar.

It does not follow the tilted path that you should be moving the bar in, for benchpressing.

For benchpress, you should at the top of the movement have straight vertical arms, but at the bottom the bar should be somewhere around the bottom of your pectorals. So it does not move just up and down, but also a slight bit forward and backward. There are multiple reasons for this, but must notably to avoid shoulder injury.

Man I tell you what. I'm 40. I've been lifting weights since I was 15. Until the last couple of years, I used to load a lot of weight and constantly try for more and more. However, injuries are catching up to me.

My body gets too sore and it takes too long to recover now if I misjudge something. I've learned it's far better to use lower weight and do more reps while ensuring proper form. I've stopped giving a shit if my weights look low or if other guys lift heavier weights. Everyone has their own goals. More importantly, who gives a shit what other people think.

Yes I realize in your situation, a bully saw you. Just keep doing your thing, keep going and keep getting stronger. Anyone who insults you for that is an asshole who isn't worth your time.

I was joking, thus the face. Get the difference homie.

So it looks like you are a beginner. By all means, do the exercises that you prefer and enjoy more, but at this stage just focus on becoming stronger in a moderate weight/moderate reps range, like a 6 to 10 per set. If you just want to be bigger and stronger and you don't intend to start doing powerlifting or other PR based competitions/sports, just do a well rounded routine consisting in chest presses, shoulder presses, rows, pullups, squats and hinges and focus on getting stronger all-around without stressing for records.
Also, do your humble pushups! They are an amazing exercise for beginners

Talk to your bully. Find something in common. "Do you like dogs? I like dogs, too."

Because screaming in pain is cringe

Pounds

First of all, are we talking kilos or lbs? Still, always ask for a spotter when trying PRs and if possible when alone use safeties in the rack in you have them, or switch to dumbbell chest pressing/dips/weighted pushup or other exercise when you can opt out in an easier way