From someone with a username like r/couchfucker6669? Never!

That's not what he said.

Apparently a "Ghost Date" is when you invite someone out for a platonic reason, like studying, and then try to turn it into a date by paying for the drink/meal.

I've never heard the term, and she could have easily insisted on paying for her own coffee.

Acting like a man has nothing to do with not screaming in pain. Watch some gym fail videos and you’ll see people who can bench 6x as much as you screaming in pain as they try to get a lift up or something.

“Man up” by not worrying about what other people are thinking of you and try your ass off to lift that heavy object. Even if it involves maybe making a fool out of yourself, or asking for a spot, or giving yourself a way to not die when you fail your 1rm

Dang what does paying for someone's dinner mean? You ghost proposed?

Locks, people, LOCKS!!! 🙄

Yes. I’m tired of everyone pointing out toxic masculinity for acting like a man is supposed to.

My brother in Christ you just almost killed yourself on a bench and you think someone telling you to make smart decisions rather than risking injury to “not be cringe” is restricting you from being yourself? 💀

What? Huh?

That's not you doing something wrong, that's - Joan's Got Issues.

Ghost date? Because you had coffee together and studied?

Normal people would realize you were being polite, say thank you, and not think twice about it.

Btw, thanks for being a decent human. 😁

How the hell do you go from doing something nice to being the bad guy of the story. How did she get ghosted if she never reached out?

Well. Something that happened to me as a kid: I completely ignored the existence of a bully. Like, I would cross my eyes through where he was and wouldn't even spot him. Absolutely just don't even hear what he says. After some time he stopped and incredibly, his friends became to bully him for not being able to bully me. Being adolescent is weird.

english is not my mother language, so, that's it.

Putting your self in needless danger to not look cringe is cringe.

Stop caring what people think about you, things will change dramatically when you do.

I pay for anyone I do anything with if I can. Men, women, acquaintances, friends, romantic partners, anyone. I'm far from rich, but I'm also not very expensive, and I like to share what I do have with the people around me. No matter who they are, or how long I've known them. It just makes me feel good to do something small and kind for someone else.

If someone went around claiming I was trying to force them on dates because of that, I would be absolutely heartbroken. I feel for you.

That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, sounds like she read into your kind gesture a little too much

Superhero origin story right here. Keep lifting. You WILL gain muscle and overall weight and eventually you’ll be out lifting your bully and they’ll think twice about messing with you. No better way to defeat a bully than trigger their insecurities.

If you get pinned, roll it down your chest to your hips and sit up. Take a moment for embarrassment then move on

Maybe my tm is too generous, but I havent experienced that yet

Was your hair real spiky too?

NO STOP

As you work up that training max pushes up to your 1rm until you have to go back down. When you're near your 1rm on week 3 I find that the 2nd set of 3 reps is sometimes more difficult than the 3rd set of 1+ reps

I agree. I’m so happy I won’t be seeing him anymore very soon.

Re-read your post and I realized you're probably younger than I thought you were 'cause I originally skimmed the end of it.

Yeah, that was a fuck-up but nobody deserves pain for making a mistake.

Also, absolutely fuck that kid

Wendlers 531 is based off a training max, which is different (and lower) from your 1rm. You shouldnt be struggling through the vast majority of your sets and reps

I’d recommend leaving the pins off of you don’t have a spotter. Then you can swivel off the weight if this happened again or just use a spotter.

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I feel like I deserve it kinda for not asking for a spotter