This isn’t a fuck up if she’s interested in you she’s gonna be thinking about you from this. DO NOT APOLOGIZE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER. Keep it light and playful and just be like I just realized I didn’t get your name last time… wait for her to respond and then just say “it’s nice to me you (insert her name here). Don’t volunteer yours. If she asks it shows interest. If she doesn’t, it shows she doesn’t care enough to ask. Little things like this matter and give you insight into interest level. Keep her off a pedestal

This is going to be used in a future restraining order hearing.

Sounds like the beginning of a nice guy story. You're not better or worse than any other person working out regardless of how much more muscles than you they have. Have a normal chat if it naturally happens. Don't force it and stop overthinking it.

Don't creep/stalk. You've opened the door a bit. If there's a hint of interest she will talk to you. Don't make the mistake and lunge.

She's there for the workout and so are you. It doesn't mean you can't meet someone there but it also doesn't mean she's there for a hookup.

You should have proposed right away. You got to know each other enough!

Joke aside, you have something to talk about or say hi next time. You dont ask for phone right away unless you talk enough. No need to learn her name yet either

I mean on one hand it sounds like she was open to a quick conversation and it went well so good for you.

On the other hand I hope I’ve never been watched at the gym as much as you watched this girl. Don’t you have a workout to focus on?

Yes this is "totally" a fuck up. As if you will never ever see her again jfc.

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Word 💪😎👍

sounds like a win to me

Hopefully she won't read this. With all those details it sounds like a stalker

This is called the long game.

Probably your fourth or fifth one of the evening, if you’re the average 400lb redditor.

Agree! This is actually good and probably something way cooler than what she normally hears, aka OP will pleasantly stand out. And it makes it easier for future interactions because it was easy and quick, the ball can be in anyone’s court still. Great time to give her a little smile and wave when you see her next and possibly later that time or the next ask to grab her name

> I respected this rule until my bf and his friend were almost kidnaped on the second to last day of their trip.

Sure, skip over the single interesting part.

> For the record: my bf and I did not do anything seggsual

And here I thought you were gonna be over easy.

How you consider that a TIFU is beyond me. You said tons of guys flirt with her and she still hasn’t picked one. Obviously because it’s creepy to go to a girl in the gym and say “hey you’re hot”.

Girls need a bit of trust; respect; and to build a connection.

gym girl gym bro stuff

Far from a fuck up. You've start to lay the ground work, she's acknowledged you without any Implication she's repulsed by you, and seems to genuinely enjoy your interactions.

In all honesty, don't rush this, take your time, giver her space, and talk to her when it's necessary. Don't force yourself into situations, or make her uncomfortable by jumping the gun asking her out as it's possible that happens with guys there fairly often. Talk randomly and find real common ground and work from there. If you can't find any, I'd suggest just letting it go.

Lastly, suggesting you help her out with certain workouts is far from finding common ground and a huge gym bro approach to finding a reason to approach women.

I don't think understand the concept. This isn't a tifu. Just talk to her next time. That will probably work better anyway, make you seem less creepy.

Idk. I think taking mirror selfies in a public toilet is super cringe ngl

Yo this is best possible outcome. You weren't weird. Its a pretty nice and respectful introduction. You were mindful of her space.

"I used to see like 5 guys a day approach her"

Guess what? You're 1 of 5.

Nah bro you did that smooth ngl it’s probably good you didn’t ask for her name. Next time you have something to talk about

I personally don’t appreciate being hit on and approached by men at the gym. It happens a lot and frequently interrupts what I’m doing. Im there to work out, not date.

CRINGE

I would be deeply creeped out by the fact there are people checking me out and noticing my progress