Idk where you get this notion from lol you're probably young. I know tons of adult couples where one is a stoner and the other is not. For reference I don't smoke anymore and my partner does and I could not care less about their habit. Saying stuff like never and can't or won't just shows how narrowminded this viewpoint is. I promise you that stoners can date non stoners...i can't believe I have to defend this point lol yall are reaaaally immature. I get that the poster is young and likely impressionable and I hope they speak to a professional and not get their advice from inexperienced people on reddit. Smh

OP doesn’t smoke occasionally. They smoke daily. No partner who doesn’t smoke at all is ever going to be fine with that. It’s nothing like the hobbies you mention.

This is just so false wtf. People can have different tastes and hobbies. I play video games and my partner doesn't, we have somewhat varying tastes in music. I play sports and she doesn't. She has different tastes in media (films/tv/social media) but that makes me see and do things I normally wouldn't and that's okay. You don't have to have the same habits and tastes as your partner (we have been happily together for 3 years). Non-weed people need to he with other non-weed people is fucking nonsense. This relationship isn't doomed and saying that to an 18 year old is misleading, misguided and irresponsible. OP do not listen to this dingle.

Then quit. Marijuana isn't addictive, the behavior, or routine, is what you're 'addicted' to. Change your routine.

Hey I’m also in a relationship with Mary Jane! Leave her alone she’s mine!

BuT wEeD iSn’T aDdIcTaVe!!!1!

This relationship was always doomed. Weed people need to be with another weed person. Non-weed people need to be with other non-weed people.

I’m sorry that you’ve had to struggle through this alone. I think you did the right thing by “coming clean” even if it might lead to the end of your relationship. Being held accountable and being true to yourself is more important for your recovery at this stage in your life than your relationship, doesn’t mean it’s not going to hurt like hell though. I would encourage you to seek medical help if you aren’t already. There are lots of online therapy options that have made it a tiny bit easier to get the courage to seek therapy and/or medical advice. I’m in no way encouraging you to keep getting high, but as you make your transition to becoming clean I would highly suggest eating edibles instead of smoking the weed during any lapses in weed usage. Yes it would be best to quit all together, but if you ever do decide to get high again then edibles will help protect your lungs and whatever medical condition is affecting them.

r/Leaves is a support community for people going through the same thing, their marijuana love/hate/trying to quit

If you would lie to someone you love when they tell you they don't mind if you tell the truth, how could you be trusted telling the truth when the admission would be taken poorly?

You've broken her trust, but by telling her and making this post you are being truthful with yourself.

You should seek therapy if not already, and seek out other activities at night to replace what you are saying is a negative usage of a drug. Go to the gym, play video games, knit, do something positive to replace your time smoking and distract your brain.

Have something to show for yourself and for your girlfriend. Write a poem every night and give it to her to show you are dedicated both to changing and to healing your relationship. Even though she didn't even care about the smoking, if you can prove you can change such a habitual thing about self, you can hopefully prove that you can commit to building your trust back with her again.

I'm a random person on the Internet reading this post to be pass time, talk to a therapist.

to clarify even more, I have other problems with my lungs and smoking is making my lungs worse.

it honestly wasn’t even me crying over the sandwich, I was crying about my mum, but yea I get what you’re saying/gen

Thanks ❤️

I just wanted to treat myself :c

They actually don’t do this much anymore, I only get like two dollars out of ten when i have to report something not correct or they give me coupons for liquor stores I don’t go to-

Yeah, I’m not the biggest fan of DoorDash in general but it seems like the better of the food delivery services where I live but that’s not saying much. The main reason why I order from them is pure convenience. Where I live it’s mostly street parking as is where a lot of my favorite restaurants are. That already makes it difficult enough plus I work on the opposite side of town from where a lot of my favorite restaurants are. That said DoorDash seems to mishandle like 1 out of every 5th order. When it’s a missing item, they’re really good about refunding but if it’s like spilt food/bad packaging, they seem to be less understanding with their automated service.

Save your money quit using door dash.

Yeah, I would maybe rethink your future plans with that giant that beats people half to death for things he leaves so they are to be stolen.

Next time he will just think that you stole something from him and won't care about your "lies" that you know nothing about that missing thing.

Didn't have all the other bad stuff happen but I ordered two sandwhiches from my favorite shop (one for tonight one for tomorrow....or probably later that night) then watched them drive in the opposite direction and doordash wouldnt let me close the ticket or have it reordered till like 45 min later when the shop closed.....they at least gave me a full refund but when you really want that one thing and cant have it it really sucks.

I've never not gotten an immediate refund for a wrong order. Really sorry that that just added a cherry on top of your day

Unrelated to the main idea of the post but if you want to vent my DMs are open.

I ordered 2 breakfast burgers in a meal with hash browns and coffees from McDonalds with Doordash (in Australia), both coffees lids were off and the entire bag and food was soaked with coffee, cost $35... doordash refunded me $1.20

Their avatar with a mustache? Also the way they write.

Was it possibly the kindness that broke you? When my dad was dying his ex-girlfriend/caretaker kidnapped him, took him over state lines, forced him into a quickie marriage (he had dementia and said she threatened him), brought a disbarred attorney into his home to rewrite his will, and then gradually upped his meds until he died, months before he was supposed to. It was the most stressful thing in my entire life (including my near death). And everytime someone was kind to me, I lost it. With complete strangers sometimes. I was living in a world where I was having to watch my front, back, and sides (the ex's friends had warned me that harming me might be easier than fighting me) and surrounded by so much toxicity that the smallest bits of kindness left me undone. It sounds like you've been to hell and back these last months. So if it was the sandwich, that's a-ok. We've almost all been there and you've more than earned your moment. But I just wondered if maybe it was actually the kindness that got you. Either way, I'm glad things are looking up overall, now I hope you start having better days and can enjoy yourself again.

What part of this told you OP is a man?