I’m feeling for you friend. This won’t do you in.

Thank you for your kind words but I don’t think that’s the case here. I feel like I’m at the end of my ropes with nowhere to go and no will to go further

I hear ya bud. Try to remember that you haven’t lost; you’re still here and chances are no matter how fucked things seem now, 99 times out of 100 they’re unfuck-able.

Also you won’t go bankrupt if you give yourself an hour to cry this evening. It might even help clear your mind so you can focus on the things you’re dealing with. I wish you the best of luck!

My finances are struggling, my emotions are high, I’m fighting back my demons right now and I feel like I’m finally losing after 8 years, something I promised my family and friends would never happen

Is there something more important that you need to be doing? It’s very important that you take time to care for yourself.

I don’t think I can afford to right now.

Grab some tissue or a nice soft cloth and go for it man. Crying is part of the process.

That’s funny, I’m not sure. I don’t think anything drastic, all I know is right now I feel like crying uncontrollably, a deep immense pain and void that cannot be filled

What would happen if you broke down?

I’m done. I’m doing all the cleaning I can right now to take my mind off of it. The longer I sit here the closer I get to just breaking down.

I want to clarify that when I say never again, I truly mean never again.

That might be the best thing for you for a bit, and then maybe some day it’ll be time to move forward into something else. Just please really do try to be kind to yourself.

It’s ok. The peace I find will be in never dating again. It’s incredibly clear to me now that I can’t do it and it’s not meant for me. I already had a fiancée leave me. Now this? I’m not dumb nor do I want to go through this again. I’m more comforted in my isolation than my painful company.

I’m sorry bud, this is really really terrible to go through. I hope you can find some peace.

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The closest we’ve come to consummating is her videoing my knee getting drained. At least one of us got penetrated, right?

This thread turned into Super Troopers and I absolutely love it

I understand how catfishing happens when there are people like you out there. An "extremely attractive" doctor who is super turned on by you and amazed by your art work. Right.

exactly! i would not show up there until they have a completely new crew and even so, i’d be mortified to go there.

Wedding night BJ at least?

what can we say? it does go runny sometimes.. :/

Just add vodka to taste...trust me, I'm a professional.

(Well, Jameson in my case I suppose!)

Funny update, my wife ran into one of the Starbucks employees that was there when it happened at the grocery store later this afternoon. She told him I was mortified and was so sorry (again). He reiterated that “shit happens” and all he had to do was lock the door, put a sign up and call a third party cleaning service. He said I’m welcome back anytime and not to be embarrassed….easy for him to say.

With such an important conversation, do you wish you had talked face to face? You could have seen her reaction. I think asking via text is your only mistake. You could have started the ask and pivoted to non-date if you judged it not going over well.

I'm having trouble deciding whether a 30% version of Bailey's would be a good or bad thing