If you’re acting this way over a cheater, you deserve to be left with nothing. Get over yourself.

Man what has this woman done to you.

I have seen your comments and she has broken you, you seem to have no will left to do anything about this and just want to give up.

This needs to stop dude, you got kids to think about and they need to be the only thing on your mind now, forget your wife as she has done to you and get it together for those kids as they are really going to need you through this and seriously if you let them down during this period that may be it for you and your kids and the relatioships you have may never ever recover.

I really wish you all the bst.

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You knew way before going through her phone. Going through her phone was an act of desperation, hoping the suspicions weren’t true. The best bet just let it go. Find a new hobby to fill your time.

Same thing happened to me. She ended up leaving and sleeping around. Begged my forgiveness, asked me to take her back, promising change. 2 months later she did it again. Divorce is pending. Do yourself a favor… run. And don’t look back. It’s not worth it. Trust is gone, and she’s already decided she’s gone.

😂😂 she does the same

It’s over when you feel the need to check her phone. It’s over when you actually do check her phone. Not excusing what she did, but you must have known on some level, that’s why you felt the need to snoop. When you feel that need it’s over, either you can’t trust her or she can’t trust you. Maybe y’all can move past it, but I’d bet it’s going to take some counseling.

Come on man don’t let yourself go like this.

Lawyer is a good start. A mental health professional would also be good OP. This type of thing can take a huge toll and be very damaging in a lot of ways. Take care of yourself during these uncertain times

By the sounds of it, you lost her way before you decided to snoop through her phone.

You have two options from what I can tell: end it, or confront her about everything and see where that takes you.

Don’t make an emotional decision that can financially impact the rest of your life. Get a lawyer, think about it as a business transaction and remove emotion from the proceedings. See a therapist about the emotional element. Do not mix the two.

She's openly and publicly doing things with this other person (going to sports games with your kids?), she's not secretly cheating. She seems obviously over your marriage, and the fact that you have to turn to the internet to figure that out is pretty telling. Split up or start over.

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Women check out long before they call it quits.

Also I know you’re upset. But like. Dude. Care about the entire life you made.

And the fact he says he's single in nearly every comment, complaining about how alone he is and self pitying

Get a lawyer and dont do anything stupid like that

Check his comment history before you commit to that statement.

Nah don’t be guilty about looking through her phone. Sometimes you have to trust your instinct especially if you’re getting bread crumbs of something being wrong. That’s how I found out about my ex emotionally cheating.

As someone who has been through this. She is GONE. physically. Mentally. Emotionally. And based on the tests you saw you NEED a lawyer. You need one now. Before she has one. You need to serve her first. With the affair being the reason legally.

Even if she says she doesnt talk to HIM anymore and IF she is still not talking to you as if she has as other mention checked out of your marriage, then you did not FU.

You simply found out the truth that she is not willing to be honest and tell you. Also if she does not want you on anything that means she is preparing for something which I would assume is divorce.

The one thing you did not mention is children and hopefully there are none so they dont have to go thru this process.

Honestly what do you have to lose by telling her? She will more than likely throw it back in your face as if it is your fault when in reality SHE is the one with those messages still on her phone. Stand your ground especially IF you have done nothing as she has done.

She is fully in the wrong IF she is the only one of you who is doing things outside the marriage.

I know what it feels like to get in that state of depression. You really want to stay in a dark room by yourself and it doesn't help that others will think you're "playing the victim."

Do what you can, if you want to talk or vent feel free to message me.

You have children who need a stable home, food, clothing, school supplies--that's 1/2 your responsibility, so your assets need to be divided equally. You're a grown-up who needs to provide for them.

judging by your comment history this is either a karma farming post written by a 17 year old or you don't care at all whether or not you stay married.

You caught a cheat, get a lawyer, start seperating entirely.