Doesn't your automation routine accommodate this? Alexa: "Help, I've fallen and I can't get up." 😉

I'm a big fan of asking people to repeat themselves if the question seems odd. And again, if necessary. I'd rather be considered partially deaf than a weirdo. 😄

You don’t even know what’s wrong with her but you assume she shouldn’t have kids as a result.

Seconded. u/Madeline2535 took the mature approach to start and when it didn't work she stood up for herself and didn't take shit. I wish I had done a little more "not taking shit" in my teenage years.

The worst part of COVID masks: trying to understand what the other person said.

the only fuck up was hers she fucked around and found out

Not wishing a baby to be born disabled makes me ableist? 🤨

They say violence is not the answer to keep people in power safe (though it should obviously be the last resort as it can lead to an escalation of the problem as you have witnessed). Just know this girl won't kick your chair again and maybe she'll even learn not to bother other kids too. It's also a very good thing you learned this lesson now that you can get in trouble for violence as in the future the punishment for such actions are much much higher. Just make sure next time something like this happens, make sure you talk to the teacher or whoever your supervisor is (after telling them you will tell on them if they don't stop), so they at least know the situation and possibly even put a stop to it before you get physical.

I honestly wish I'd had your level of guts at that age.

it's ok. dumb bitch wont bother you again.

Good thing you aren’t friends with her anymore. You sound ableist af.

You did the right thing, the girl took it physical first and needed to learn a lesson. Unfortunately schools have been pushing all this non-violence/zero tolerance nonsense so kids can't sort out their problems :(

Ex friend. We fell out a some months ago and haven't spoken since. This just came up today and thought I'd share it as I still felt a tiny bit bad.

Nah I don’t have to maintain my friends like they’re some sort of machine that’ll break down on me, my group of friends have been friends for over 20 years. In a situation exactly like this we would all know how much it sucks but none of them would make a remark like this expecting pity from one of us.

I regret not doing this. The trouble will fade the memory wont. Fuck that bitch.

There are doctors for that...who will assess and discuss with patients whether they can or cannot conceive (whether its a danger for the mother etc)

You must have zero experience with miscarriages. If you did, you would feel differently.

Plus they are friends. Personally, if I am insensitive and hurt a friend's feelings, I apologize with sincerity. But that's just me. It might make op feel better too.

This is not meant as an insult, but you have a lot to learn about maintaining friendships.

I dont condone violence usually but people like that deserve to be hit.

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Sorry, OP. It might not be much, but know that THIS father is proud of ya.

OP has no reason to apologize, just because she can’t have kids doesn’t mean everyone in her life can no longer talk about kids. The only one that should apologize is her for the remark she made trying to make OP feel bad and playing victim. There’s billions of people in the world and her problems aren’t at the center of it

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Nobody around me thinks that

Some time before we fell out she was losing weight like no matter what she ate. Then she had to go to the hospital because she almost died from starving. Now she has to have a feeding tube and she couldn't sleep well cos of it. I'm not sure what disease or condition caused that but but I really wouldn't want a baby to inherit that or have to go through it.

Not saying the baby would be born disabled but it's a really big risk they're taking. It would be like a miracle if the baby was completely normal.

Lol barking on the internet is a reach. That was just my initial thought when I read this. I also do have the right to go against their choice with my opinion, but it wont stop them. I would make an effort to shame them if I knew them because it's my right and nobody can stop me. Why are you so salty?

Edit: to everyone up in arms about how it's their choice, yes it is. However choices can be selfish and this particular choice has the chance of robbing someone of a normal life.