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SmolSpacePrince39 t1_jdfybut wrote

It sounds like she’d be risking both her own life and the baby’s if she did carry. Even if the baby made it to term and was born, there’s likely an increased chance of illness or disability. It’s not my place to judge, but I can say that I don’t understand her mindset. It baffles me. It’s also just a lot of trauma to put oneself through.

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Duffman66CMU t1_jdfy2te wrote

Sure. She kicked a chair and laughed. Is that the same as punching in the face? Is this how we want to teach young people to react when someone annoys them?

Perhaps this young person could advocate for themself and move their chair out of reach. Perhaps they could consult the teacher. There are many other things that this student could have tried, but because they feel overwhelmed, they jumped right to the last resort.

That is where the principal’s coming from. Was what the other kid did wrong? Yes. Was it suspendable? No. Fighting is.

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Duffman66CMU t1_jdfy1lr wrote

Sure. She kicked a chair and laughed. Is that the same as punching in the face? Is this how we want to teach young people to react when someone annoys them?

Perhaps this young person could advocate for themself and move their chair out of reach. Perhaps they could consult the teacher. There are many other things that this student could have tried, but because they feel overwhelmed, they jumped right to the last resort.

That is where the principal’s coming from. Was what the other kid did wrong? Yes. Was it suspendable? No. Fighting is.

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__Dystopian__ t1_jdfwnsj wrote

You have obviously never witnessed the efficiency violence has when it comes to putting an immediate end to someone being annoying.

And your comment should be:

Violence isn't always the appropriate response to someone being annoying. Speaking in absolutes is both ignorant and naive.

Edit: after some thought, I've realized this isn't the approach to life I'd like to teach my kid. That might be fucked up. I mean, protect yourself and others with a good ass kicking if need be. But...yeah. you're right. We should talk things through more. Well. I still believe violence has an appropriate place in some situations. I do agree that it shouldn't be a go to in most cases. Not when you can walk away, or at least publicly shame them for being a turd.

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ApocalypseSpokesman t1_jdfwe5x wrote

There is a feeling that you ought to catch hell for this. The rule seemingly being "pay close attention to assignments and submit them properly."

But on reflection, if you sent him, say, an assignment for another class, the same feeling would not be there, even though it would seem that the same rule had been infracted in the same way.

So a big part of that reaction must be a psychological opprobrium toward porn generally. But why would that be, really? Would anyone seriously entertain the notion that the professor doesn't consume porn, or that he would think that of you? Or do we think that porn is somehow dangerous or destructive?

On a final reflection though, it was furry porn, so it would only be justice for you to end up in some sort of gulag/salt mine type of situation.

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anarmex t1_jdfv241 wrote

You should’ve been more empathetic but wtf with your friend and her poor choices, I mean disabled, health conditions and on a walking stick I hope at least she is on some sort of control with her Ob and her medical team as it might seem she is setting herself for failure and I also hope that she does has a supporting partner to aid with the baby.

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ricottapie t1_jdfsv8a wrote

I know. I've been through it myself. Zero tolerance policies are garbage. I'm sorry your son keeps getting labelled. They really should be able to do more for him, and it's frustrating, especially when you do everything you're supposed to, like keeping documentation. I don't know what the solution is. :(

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ricottapie t1_jdfs62k wrote

Oof. Well, they do have a legal obligation to protect themselves and their students. They can't ignore someone getting a split lip in their care.

I empathize with you, though. I've been in your position (not the physical fight part), and it can be hard to know how to react in the moment. I hope you're never again in a situation where you feel like you have no other choice but to fight back.

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