Recent comments in /f/tifu

eivind2610 t1_jdh1q1u wrote

Reply to comment by Duffman66CMU in TIFU by losing my temper at school by Madeline2535

You're forgetting the key point that the other girl wasn't just being annoying - she was physically hurting OP. She was basically doing the same as what OP ended up doing, except for longer... and less visibly. And we haven't even begun to address the bullying aspect of it yet.

I agree with you that a punch to the face was taking things too far, but what the other girl did was also taking things too far in the first place. There's often not enough room to move the chair out of reach from someone sitting directly behind you, so that's not necessarily an option. And anyone who's ever dealt with bullying in school knows that if you take it to the teacher, a few things are going to happen: First of all, the bullying will only get worse - you 'snitched', so in the bullies' mind, you've shown you deserve it. Second, the teacher is more than likely going to either not do anything, or take the bully's side. There isn't necessarily a good way out of the situation OP was in.

All that being said - you're absolutely right that OP shouldn't have punched the other girl.

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davtruss t1_jdgz8ma wrote

Reply to comment by pressabba in TIFU by showing my friend a picture of another friends baby when she's been having miscarriages. by [deleted]

You speak the truth. My older sister had a 13 year old son who was an usher in my wedding. My younger sister had a 4 year old daughter who was the flower girl, and she was pregnant again.

NOBODY knew (for years) that my older sister had just gotten pregnant and miscarried before the wedding, which explained why she sat in the car. If my younger sister had known, it may have avoided years of family discord.

My greatest hope is that people would be both sensitive and to the extent possible, forthcoming about the source of very private problems. And as for friends, well, even good friends suck from time to time.

The best a good friend can do is say I'm sorry in a sincere way and hope you can keep the friend.

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davtruss t1_jdgytup wrote

Reply to comment by pressabba in TIFU by showing my friend a picture of another friends baby when she's been having miscarriages. by [deleted]

I'm not going to guess who is or isn't a woman on reddit, but if I could line up boys and men, I would teach them what one should and should not say to ANY girl or woman about reproduction.

And I would hope those boys and men would collaborate with the women in their lives to help girls and women know how to address reproductive blessings and challenges in a way that doesn't cause unnecessary pain to friends and family members.

There is no greater challenge in life than remembering somebody else's grief in the midst of one's joy.

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Sargash t1_jdgw2qc wrote

Reply to TIFU by losing my temper at school by Madeline2535

I know it's a little moot, but, it would have been a lot simpler and easier to just go 'Hey teach, this kid behind me keeps smashing their feet into my back, they've been doing it for the past 20 minutes.' Or turn around and don't confront her and be silent about it. Confront her and be obvious. "Hey, you wanna stop kicking my back like you're a 10 year old on an airplane, grow up."

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snowmandala t1_jdgvtbu wrote

Reply to comment by Akakage in TIFU by losing my temper at school by Madeline2535

In almost all situations there is a better solution, like juat telling the teacher that she is annoying you by doing this. Or just standing up and sitting down elsewhere. If you are good with words its also easy to make herself feel stupid for doing this.

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Psycheau t1_jdgvnez wrote

Reply to TIFU by losing my temper at school by Madeline2535

You did the right thing, if you didn't turn around and belt that bitch she would continue trying to bully you. So you got in trouble, who cares the principle doesn't have to walk the halls every day and get bullied, you do. My grandson was getting bullied at school, I told him to belt that damn kid as hard as he could and hurt him pretty bad, he pushed the bully over onto the concrete and busted his face up. I praised him for it, and before all the good two shoes start chiming in on how I'm a bad grandad, prove to me that kid would have stopped if he ignored it?

No you all know I'm right, that poor bully is getting picked on at home and that's why he does this shit at school, well not to my grandson any more, he also earned the respect of other kids and made more friends. I told him don't you ever start bullying kids, he promised me he never would, but no one will pick on him again after they saw what he did to the bully.

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