Whatever .. He paid the price. He should quit wallowing in self absorbed misery before he rewires his pathways into full on depression.

Hey there! It doesn’t sound like you cheated, per se, but you fell for someone else. But this is part of why we date someone for a while before getting married: sometimes this just happens. When you meet the right person, you won’t get distracted by others, or you’ll catch yourself right away and make the choice that your partner is worth the fidelity. I can understand your feelings of guilt and loneliness stemming from this situation, but I promise, this is normal and okay! You’re allowed to grieve, so let yourself feel your feelings. Attend counseling if you would like. Most importantly, understand that fuck-ups and breakups happen- and they nearly always suck. You’ll get through this one -even if it feels impossible right now- and you’ll get through the next. Try your best to not let it stop you from living your life to the fullest. Someone else is out there waiting for you to walk into the break room at your next job and share your story, become irresistible to them, and notice them too! Consider what you liked about each of these women, and take that into account when choosing the next partner. Learn from this situation that not everyone’s love language is the same - emotional intimacy is obviously high on your preferences and that sounds amazing! But it might not be everyone’s, so be cautious about misinterpreting their intentions. I’m sorry woman #2 ghosted you, but sometimes people can’t cope with what they consider a difficult situation for themselves. My last recommendation is that you start going out with friends or by yourself in low-pressure situations: mall shopping, lunch at a cafe, movies, etc, to get you comfortable with leaving the house and brief social interactions again. You got this!! I believe you’ll be back out there!! Be kind to yourself and good luck!!!

Fair enough, make sense to me.

Also, greetings from Seattle here, as it turns out! :)

Emotional cheating is a thing that OP absolutely did

You did not cheat.

Did you hug or kiss?

Did you put something somewhere with her? Obviously not.

Yeah, maybe they're interpreting a lot of everyday conversations this way.

So weird that they're okay asking (only semi-)personal questions but not receiving them.

That’s a train tunnel

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Not sure what kind of responses you’re expecting to get here. You cheated, you don’t deserve sympathy.

Man the fuck up, move on and do better.

I think that unless they are your close friends, that type of information is none of your bussines. And it gets even more annoying when people just assume you are heterosexual.

First of all, don't propose at 18. You can, you are allowed to, it's romantic and passionate, but you shouldn't. Pace yourself, experiment life, I don't want to sound like an old fart, but things are not how you see them at 18. Please take it slow, for your own good, longterm.

Secondly, think about what you really want. Your ex might never change. She wants you now, next week she might dump your ass again. Don't ruin relationships with people that really care about you for people that offer you drama, excitement, and strong (but toxic) feelings.

Do what you feel is the right thing to do, do what you think it's best, but take into consideration that, at 18, you might get it wrong, and it's normal and it's OK.

Good luck!

You are correct. Hit the nail right on the head.

Tl;dr please do not propose and try to marry anyone at age 18. (I didn’t read the rest of the tifu.)

You might be able to get them back by holding up the store? Just have to say “it’s a prank” and you’ll be fine

Ive never had anyone be offended by the words stud or butch. If they have a different term they prefer they are always fine with educating politely and i am more than accommodating. Im not sure that there is any "safe" and all encompasing term for the less girly girl looking lesbians. If there is, would love to know. So just being polite and changing your beat kf corrected is acceptable.

I loved this one couple i knew in washington state. The more preppy one was the "girl" (according to them), the other was more masculine and prefered to be called the "woman" in their relationship. Lol. They were a super cute couple. I liked the idea that being the more masculine, stronger seeming, breadwinner was still getting a feminine descriptor. I hate how male washed relationships have to be for people to feel less uncomfortable with them.

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The onlything I can figure is that you were talking about kids and jumped to honeymoon, so they thought you were a creep thinking about their sex life.

I personally dont ask about someones honeymoon unless I know them more personally. Asking how long theyve been married is generally acceptable but otherwise its not your business as a customer aquaintance.

When confronted I would have just said "sorry, im married too and was trying to be friendly" maybe laughed about how making friends is hard these days. Beyond that, it would be on them if they want to continue being butthurt by an innocent mistake.

instead you spent a day and a half in an airport doing nothing

Guess I didn't like the fact that I was missing out so much. You think this mess can be solved?

I've made tons of mistakes, I admit. But in your opinion do you think we could still be together?

If they are from a certain country maybe they had fixed marriage and did not want anyone to know?

I also heard one of them will get cut in half, you can never be too carful when using ✂️ on each other to procreate

Lol someone randomly messaged me in reddit chat asking to get to know me better and I told them “why would you want to ruin a perfect stranger” and they stopped bothering me

It’s an island with a Chunnel to the mainland… the switchover absolutely happens.

That is hard to comprehend. You can drive that long down some highways and barely see anything but fields.