My armpits hurt just reading that.

Probably she thought asking if they had a nice honeymoon was a question about sex. Obviously it wasn't because she could easily have told him about things they did on their honeymoon completely unrelated to the bedroom.

Additional time would be necessary.

geez... some people in the replies are being really aggressive. obviously these women were in the wrong but it's not like they did him any harm. some of y'all need to calm down and redirect your issues

If the damage is relatively minor it might not be worth going through the insurance company and losing the no claims discount (if you have such a thing where you live).

Well you are about to find out what is more important to your mom. The car or you?

I mean as long as my kid is OK the car can be fixed. From what you seem to say she might be different.

Just get ready for what is coming.

you've got a good point. not that OP did anything truly wrong, but when you've got your shield up constantly, anything can set you off, sadly. just don't take it personally OP and just be neutrally civil with them in the future

from what I've gathered "stud" tends to be a descriptor for the sexual preferences or role in the relationship, whereas "butch" describes the aesthetic and the gender. i can see why the former could be potentially offensive because it brings to light something private. but i could be talking out my ass, lesbians feel welcome to school me on this

calm down dude, it's not a sackable offense

oops 😬

in my opinion asking people about children is kind of personal, but i don't know the extent of your friendliness with them so I can't make that judgement.

i also want to ask, are you living in a particularly queer-friendly area? are they originally from there? i ask because it could be that they're accustomed to navigating their relationship in an unfriendly environment and so have had to keep their guard up around anything relating to their relationship and sexuality. in that case their reaction would make more sense.

furthermore, it could be that they're used to showing interest (or at least feigning interest) towards customers because the customers seem to like it, but customers never return the interest so they don't expect those kind of questions

just some theories

Why do people want to traumatize themselves so? My wife has gone through my reddit account (Hey, if you are reading this in the future) and I don't even use it for porn, just disturbing questioning.

So obviously she was distraught over seeing the questions here, but i have warned her specifically not to go through my reddit or chats with friends. Those are disturbing to normal humans or without any context.

So basically IMO if you walk to a minefield that's cut off with a fence and has signs warning about it. It's your own fault for stepping on one.

Forbidding self pleasure in a relationship seems like a red flag from the start. I pray he's okay.

I hate to say this BUT you FU and violated your BFs trust in you as well. I guess you have no choice but to break up with him. Usually there is no way to rebuild trust especially when BOTH of you violated it.

Damn, you gave that guy some trauma for looking at porn, def a fuck up.

It’s a shitty learning experience. Just gotta tell yourself to get over it or give in and let it ruin your life

I started dating my now husband when I was 18 (now 26) we got engaged after 5 years and married after 6. Had we gotten married years 1-3 I am almost certain I would currently be a divorcee in my 20s. If you can help it please wait to propose. She may be the one but marriage isn't casual, it's a massive commitment and you need to be certain that it's the right move. If you do propose, stay engaged for a long while. I know my stranger on the internet advice means nothing really but take it as youd like.

Scissor me timbers

I definitely wouldn’t go that far. I don’t want to see them lose their livelihoods over the situation. I have mentioned they were always very pleasant in all my visits until these occurrences.

I was on the phone during the confrontation. Not when asking the questions. Sorry for the confusion, my friend.

We are in the US. Maybe. I’m not sure.

The only FU here was asking about kids imo. It can be a really touchy subject for some people, and there’s a myriad of ‘under the surface’ things that can and will trigger people. Personally I’d just leave that subject alone in general unless someone offers that information.

Give it a few days, then resume as normal.

I pretty much did respond like that when I was confronted because I was on the phone with my fiancé during the occurrence. Just wanted to reassure them I meant no disrespect. Imo asking did they have a good honeymoon is a surface level question because they were recently married.

Lol I’d rather not go to jail.

I personally did not assume her sexuality. Also please take into consideration that I have stated she has asked me personal questions as well. Hence the reason I was confused when she asked me why was I being so personal when I asked the questions.