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You are judgemental, you said the guy is an ass who insults people, is hard to be around and exposes himself to children younger than himself because he wears tight legging type trousers, and that it insults you.

All humans judge, it’s a natural thing in society so no need to shy away from that.

It just seems like you aren’t going to take in any advice about the situation or take any other perspective unless it is supportive of your view which is fine but I’m not sure you’re going to find the answers you’re looking for on here.

I’d state that telling others how to dress because you don’t like it is insulting but you disagree, that’s cool.

The only thing I’d suggest is speaking to others who also find it insulting and write/email a collective letter signed by all those who feel insulted and send it to the senior members of the faculty at your school outlining the issues you have and ways they can be dealt with in agreement with all those are insulted and see how that can be of any use. If no immediate change be persistent and then at least then you have proof of contact with the school about the concerns you have for any future issues being raised.

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I don't see why not enjoying being with someone who constantly is looking for depressing subjects and contantly crying and in need of emptional support is such a bad thing. OP should be there to help, but she should be aware that people do get afected by your mood and you should look to be a pleasant person arround the people you like. If she really does become jealous that OP asks his mom questions or his parents for help then yeah he kinda has the right to complain. You dont go into relationships looking for someone to listen to you whinning constantly. You should support your friends and love ones, but you are not an emotional dump.

Sometimes you gotta bust a nut. Own it

1. You never mentioned him touching himself in the OP

2. You still aren't getting there's a difference between "boxers" and "boxer briefs."

"Boxers" don't and aren't designed to provide support, which leads me to believe you have no idea what you're talking about.

If it's such a problem, why wouldn't you, or another student, or a teacher just bring it up to someone at the school that can do something about it? School's always make the "clothes becoming a distraction" rule as they go. Regardless of if the kid has a right to wear his clothes like this at school or not, it's not your responsibility to take it up with him.

someone was getting their daily dose of intellectual stimulation while on the job. I mean, who needs coffee when you've got Bonnie and Clyde articles to keep you going?

But seriously, you might want to invest in a "do not disturb" sign for future bathroom breaks, because your manager probably thinks you were up to something a little more "personal" than just reading.

And if you do need to explain yourself, just tell him that you were practicing your interpretive dance moves for a local production of "Footloose." Or, you know, just blame it on the fact that you had too much coffee and were feeling a little jumpy. Hey, it could happen to anyone, right?

You didn't fuck up by telling a joke. You fucked up by being the joke. telling people about her private shit and "Haha jk relax" about not liking your partner aren't jokes

I would have pissed about all the private stuff you told your friends.

Edit: way to edit your post to try to make it seem like you aren’t a shit person. Your ex gf dodge a huge bullet.

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You know you’re in bad shape when being around you causes others to need therapy too

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Telling a person "you need to move on" when you've been dealt wayyy better cards in life and they're still deep in their shit could do so much long term harm I can't begin to explain properly in words. Just....no. Better say nothing than say that tbh.

As someone who had an abusive childhood, multiple SA and a truck load of other issues. I've been on a mental health journey for 10 years via meds and therapy. It is NOT your responsibility to be the one that is there for someone else when they are going through it. Yes, if you choose to fill that role, there are some techniques you can learn to be more supportive. But if you really feel like it's more than you bargained for, that's OK and it doesn't make you an asshole...it makes you honest with yourself about the situation you find yourself in. But be honest with her about what you are capable of, and if you can't do this with her, you would be wise to go ahead and excuse yourself from the relationship.

Before you come at me, I got way more than I bargained for when I married my husband because he masked the entire time we were dating. I chose to stay and help him work through it. Now that it's my turn to do the work, he's there for me. But if he couldn't, I would rather him leave than be there half assed.

What’s funny about it?🙄

Yea. This is on you.

It’s your issue not his. Get over it by accepting other people exist and those other people may have different values or opinions.

Welcome to life

Id break up with you too. Shouldn’t be sharing that shit with your friends

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Life gives us lessons, make sure you are taking notes

She is only 20 and from what you're saying she experienced throughout her life, she has so many more years to go until she could be fine. Her brain is still very young and there's many aspects she can't see yet that are gonna come out in the following years.

I definitely understand your frustrations with her reactions, she is definitely not at peace with so many things and my honest opinion is that you two are not good partners for each other because of big difference in life perception. Best wording I could do right now.

And the advice I'm giving is purely from personal experience. I'm 22 and have a ton of similar trauma behind me. I can say at 20 I wasn't aware of 90% that I'm aware of right now and I learned that the journey towards understanding and healing is way, way longer than it seemed. Having people who simply can't understand my situation would only make things worse, I suppose it's the same for everyone else.

Me mid whatever the fuck this was, "guys I'm feeling pretty weird, oh god" gets kill Friend: "are you okay???" Me: "idk I don't think so, I'm kinda scared" gets double kill

Still playing the game while having whatever weird reaction that was and WINNING. Truly a pro gamer move. 🤣

Are his genitals fully exposed and on show? I doubt it.

You seem to really not like this person which i think is clouding your judgement of the ridiculousness of your request. You can’t demand someone change because you don’t like their dress even if you find it insulting.

Imagine him telling you how to dress and how you’d feel. I’d imagine you wouldn’t take the slightest bit of notice either.

Have you spoken to the school about it and how it insults you?

Why did you wait until almost the last minute to submit? I don’t understand that. The absolute latest I would have submitted that would have been first thing in the morning on the day it was due.