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She 100% told her friends. Girls tell each other everything and they love details. Probably best to let that one go and learn from the experience. Lying about experience in this situation is never good and almost always obvious. Being a virgin is a huge turn on for some girls anyway. I would just own it.

You aired out another person's sexual fetishes and kinks and allowed them to be mocked? And didn't defend her? Wow, dude. Just wow. Do better in the future please.

I only know as much about the situation as you say, you never made any mention of sexist or derogatory comments so how can I condone that or imply I condone that when you have never mentioned that at all?

You’re now making up a narrative to make yourself feel better which is just ridiculous.

You say you aren’t judgemental and that it’s just him but you are now saying I condone sexism which is by definition judgemental and a completely unfounded accusation.

What a rollercoaster this conversation is.

I had a friend in this exact situation with 10K on his Amex card. He first claimed it wasn't him in the champagne room, but the club promptly sent Amex photos of him leaving the champagne room. He still contested it with Amex, claiming he was coerced/ripped off. He kept contesting it for months, threatened to cancel his card, etc. Eventually Amex ended up covering the entire bill.

But would the credit card company consider it fraud? He did authorize the charges, after all, even when the cc was flagging this as an issue. Even his drug usuage wouldn't help him since he voluntarily took the drugs (and his other friend didn't).

Now the strip club? They WERE predatory. 100%. Is there something that can be done against them?

😂. I may indeed. The way the officer eyed that cake is too relatable. The thing is, I don’t really even like pound cake. Would never occur to me to eat pound cake. But that dang video! Afroman is too good. So smooth. That video’s editor deserves all the awards. And maybe some pound cake! Even now, I’m still singing (and cackling) about it.

He'd still be on the hook for what he owes.

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Oh, sweet summer child.

No it'll be a stripper assassin.

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Bahahahaha! The hangover!

Probably.

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The real fuck up was bragging about sexual prowess in the first place.

Before I go assuming things, do you both like each other as people or was this purely carnal?

What opinion are you appalled by? I haven’t said anything that’s shocking or controversial.

Good luck with your issue though, I hope you manage to resolve it using your own methods.

A lot of these comments are vilifying you for being asshole, but u/dethsremorse is the one you should be listening to. You are not responsible for fixing your girlfriend, nor should you try. It is perfectly OK to think that she has more going on than you can or want to handle. It is absolutely natural to want to be with someone who is emotionally and mentally stable, and frankly, it sounds like your girlfriend isn’t, through no fault of her own. Even if you love her, if you don’t have the patience or desire to help her work through her problems, it’s OK to end the relationship. You might feel like an asshole, but you’re not doing your girlfriend any favors by sticking around and being unempathetic to her problems. There’s nothing wrong with moving on with your life and letting her move on with her life which ever way she can. You could gently recommend that she go to a therapist who can help her work out her trauma, but you aren’t that therapist and it is fair if you don’t want to take on someone else’s major issues.

The person you are in a relationship with should be supportive, but they should not be your therapist. Yes, the guy lost his temper and lashed out and hurt her, but what she is doing is just going to kill their relationship regardless. It might be for the better that she sees a counselor and you two takes some time off.

You did not FU. You did her a favor by showing her your true self.

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Now you know to learn from this. Keep your future partner's business to yourselves.

If they're living together they'll have the same public IP address.

You did not FU. You did her a favor by showing her your true self.

Isn't there a scheme where you can report someone to the IRS and get a cut of any extra tax money they get?

Depending how petty he is he could do that.