"Getting drunk and helping other people with their life issues" sounds like top-tier escapism

You won but at what cost

They can do that too believe it or not.

Literally me, lol. On top of that, I'm prone to migraines when I'm taking a caffeine hiatus to lower my tolerance if I don't remember to drink enough water. You can imagine how that goes with ADHD lol.

How long did you leave the personal ( and graphic) email on screen for them to actually read that far into it?? And maybe you have great coworkers but it sounds a bit juvenile and overkill to receive “a flood” of teasing messages about it. We all make mistakes. I think the embarrassment and shame you feel is harsh enough.

Many , many people want to have sex with multiple people. Nothing really wrong with that. As far as the text shows, he at least is open about his feelings and desires. That's already better than most.

Well, at least he's open about it, instead of keeping tabs with her behind your back.

What's important is what you really, really want. What would your feelings be when he's with her? As that's what he's proposing. Could you see yourself in the same room as her, knowing you are in a love triangle? If not, then your path is clear.

Even if you see yourself being fine with this situation, his ex might not be. Even if she agrees, she might just do so in order to 'win him back'. After all, you're 'the other woman' as far as she is concerned.

It's a very tricky situation and definitely one we, internet warriors, can give a final solution to. Just be careful and make sure you brace for disappointment.

It is the worst feeling ever to be alone for the first time in ones life and rejected by the only person to ever love me, yeah it sucks. You clearly have a lot of compassion for him but don't neglect your own needs too. Keep your eyes open, you have not known him long and people tend not to show you who they are until they feel comfortable.

You need to get off Reddit more if you think this is actually gonna go over well for OP at a strip club that was giving him drugs lmao.

Next time at the check out, say something like here we are checking you out again. That should connect and cover the situation.

"The first few hours after the fight I kept thinking, over and over, what could I have done to get a different outcome. My first thought was… “I should have kept hitting him when he was injured, I’m a fool, I stopped attacking"

I'm surprised "Why didn't I just keep walking?" wasn't first on that list.

I'm sorry to hear that. That must be tough! And thank you, I think you are very right about that. I think it's just a very hard situation for him and that seems to be the only option that feels kind of right. I can even understand it, but I think he should take time for himself and have no contact with either of us to know what he really wants. But he sees it differently and so I am in the situation to chose for myself what I want..

Ikr. At my work cafeteria, whenever the lady rings me up, she will follow up with "have a nice day", of course I will respond with, "Thanks, you too." But occasionally, she would say, "Enjoy your meal," and I would respond without thinking, "Thanks, you too."

I think she is doing it on purpose to have a lol with people.

yes, theft. like, you see a kid, you take it home without paying for it.

Ditto... 😢

Is it though? OP took decaf exactly because they think there is no caffeine in it. As opposed to taking decaf, thinking it’s normal coffee and feeling sick. (Just pondering technicalities)

That's a fine stereotype of crickets... check your species privilege. (/s)

My friends are mature enough to understand why I would choose someone more competent than them. Being a good friend would be to tell them straight away the reasons so they can improve.

Not sure what to say here. Polyamory is tricky and takes a lot of work but not impossible. The problem here (other than personal preferences) is I don't think he is anymore polyamorous than you are, and trying to resolve two very different positions. His ex is a stable force in his life but you are a novelty. New relationships are exciting and different but that feeling doesn't last. My wife of 21 years left me for another man. It happens

It was a uni society. Obviously you'd pick your friend over someone slightly better. I would encourage being a good friend

Dude just wants to bang a second woman without any guilt from his main relationship. And you will be the side chick, he's made that clear enough.

Best TIfU I’ve read all week.

Can confirm. Ex is a therapist and now I really need therapy!

Thank you.. Thats a really good advice I would give someone in this situation as well. Its harder to see this clearly when I am in this situation myself, as I just dont want to lose what we have.. But I will try and take my time to think about that, thanks!

Theft ??