Recent comments in /f/tifu

NTGenericus t1_je696jw wrote

So it has taken me years and years to realize that people often don't like to be seen in terms of their ethnicity. When that happens they're immediately "othered" and pointedly different. If they're just trying to fit in and get along like everyone else, pointing out their difference can cause self-consciousness or be insulting. I'm on the spectrum and I made so many people uncomfortable just by trying to be familiar with them on what I saw as their own terms. It's best to just ignore any differences and treat them like everyone else. Let them fit in without being "different".

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SoulBombarded t1_je64gf1 wrote

From someone who also struggles with BPD, and has done the same thing to someone I loved and who loved me more; don't dump them over these "feelings" you get. You're overthinking, overwhelmed, and overall trying to push someone away because you're scared of someone knowing you and potentially, rejecting you, but not realizing that you will most likely be accepted, and cared for. Do it for you.

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