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ImpendingSenseOfDoom t1_je84a1b wrote

They will always only admit to what has been proven - there is evidence that he contacted these people, but apparently no proof that he acted on it. Let's say there was proof he acted on it one time, but not every other time he made contact - then he would admit it was just one slip up, but only once and never again. The reality is OP will never know the truth but there is enough damning evidence to suggest he has cheated several times that his word is not enough to believe and he probably has acted on it many of those times.

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_preschool-dropout t1_je844pc wrote

the name the guy has, okami (岡見, i'm pretty sure) is different from the word for wolf, which is ookami. (狼) ookami has the longer o vowel.

there's actually a hundred people or so in japan with the last name ookami. (source: myoji yurai)

also the meaning of the guys name was in the first paragraph lol.

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adibork t1_je82ceb wrote

Fuuuuuuuu——-k. Get yourself into S-ANON online meetings immediately. This is a shock. He may never be well. He may be a victim. He may be a narcissist. The S-ANON groups kept me alive in the early days of my grief.

Many people suffer with partners who are sex or love addicts. It’s not your fault, responsibility or even your business — the addiction predates your relationship.

Immediately suspend all judgments on yourself, him, your past and your future. Don’t try to think anything or figure it out.

Just EAT, SLEEP, BREATHE and attend those meetings. Link is attached! 💜💙

https://sanon.org/find-a-meeting/

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DevilsMasseuse t1_je80sdm wrote

It’s like what if your friend said something like „Isn’t your name…asshole?“ At first, you may think he’s making a bad joke, until you realize he just doesn’t speak English very well.

But then in the back of your mind, you’re thinking „maybe he knows a little English and he’s putting me on“ You can imagine his feelings might be a little fucked up at first, a mix of confusion and paranoia. Just give him time. You will both eventually realize what an absurd situation this is.

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No_Tamanegi t1_je802p3 wrote

Honestly, his reaction seems a little fucked up. It's not like you intended to offend him or upset him. You may have tapped into something where he was bullied used that term against him when he was younger, and I'm sure that could still sting, but he should be able to recognize the difference.

Also, it's fundamentally messed up that being feminized is a blanket insult.

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CaffeinatedHBIC t1_je7wyrj wrote

As someone with a... unique name, this sounds like my reaction to hearing my name mispronounced in a way that has previously been used as an insult. It's likely you just accidentally struck a nerve.

It's less awkward if you don't continuously probe him and apologize again and again. Just make a very deliberate effort to never make that mistake again. Make an effort to perhaps invite him out to lunch at a place where you will not be invited to make an ass of yourself (i.e. don't invite him to a Japanese steakhouse owned by white people and try to pronounce the menu items).

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jessiehodgkin13 t1_je7wqru wrote

I has in hospital for two weeks or so in ICU and had surgery a couple of times in a row. My surgeon was gorgeous and I was always drugged up and liked to tell him how handsome he was in my drugged up state. Or how Gorgeous his eyes are or how amazing he is. The nurses loved reminding me everything I'd said when Id come back out I also had a surgery last week in London, I woke up from the anesthesia and saw my surgeon/doctor. Note that he's the top doctor in the UK for my condition (blood clots) and it took a couple of years to get a referral to him. Anyway I woke up and said are you the surgeon and he said yes I'm so and so and I, in my anesthetic state, went omg you're like a celebrity, I've finally met you! Can I get an autograph? You're a celebrity!

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