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PixelateddPixie t1_iqzolea wrote

Reply to comment by harleyspoison267 in TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

Just commenting to say that I really liked this comment and I completely agree. I tend to make pretty crude jokes with my friends quite often but as silly as it might sound, I really don't like any jokes that imply terrible things about or happening to my cats. It turns my mood defensive almost immediately because they are my entire life. To OP, I'll back up this comment by saying it does sound like you crossed a boundary involving your friend's mom. Give her time and she might be able to forgive the comment, but don't try to pressure her to accept your apology and just learn from this mistake moving forward in current or future friendships.

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chasseur143 t1_iqzog70 wrote

Reply to comment by harleyspoison267 in TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

I know exactly how he would feel with that. My mum passed away 4 years ago and I was close to my mum so it's kind of touchy for me (not that I get pissed off with people and say/do something to them, especially if they don't know about it) but it does hit that spot.

But it's good you know where to draw that line on that stuff and sounds like you guys are good together with being able to joke like that to each other - kind of hard to find nowadays I swear.

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harleyspoison267 t1_iqziirh wrote

Reply to TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

It's possible you inadvertently hit too close to home. My fiance and I have a pretty no holds barred style of comedy with each other, including stuff like his kids, my parents, etc. BUT his mom and him were very close and she passed away many years ago which has lead to him kind of idealizing her (she was an amazing woman by all accounts tho). He does NOT find your mom jokes funny. Even stuff I would consider innocuous like saying his mom has an old lady name (she does). This is a guy who frequently tells me with a serious face he wants to divorce me, as a joke, but I can't say a word about his mom. I could be petty and make a huge deal out of it, but the reality is, he loved her a lot, he still misses her, and it's just not funny, so I don't, as a courtesy. I completely understand making an innocent mistake. I frequently shove my feet in my mouth so I get it, but I think you owe your friend a genuine, well thought out, apology. Also understand that if this was triggering, she may need time to come to you on her own terms. That's her right. I hope it works out. I know how horrible it is to lose friends because of one stupid thing because people can't be willing to set aside and forgive.

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