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AnonzyAccount t1_ir3mckr wrote

Reply to TIFU by jumping in a family beef by These-Blackberry5874

Something similar happened to me earlier today. If the argument was worth fighting for, It wasn't a bad thing for you to jump in. I don't even think there's a logical reason as to why your mom would need to make things physical anyways, but that's just me.

Whatever happened, happened. If they still want to hold a grudge over it, don't beat yourself up over it. Its been months since that happened, and its stupid to think that playing the quiet game will help. (Self experience on that part. It just ends in years of wasted time over something so stupid...)

Either way, If this still bothers you, I'm sorry. It's not your fault for what happened, and you did your best to help. If your parents choose to burn a bridge, its best to stop trying to put out the flames.

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Cmmander_WooHoo t1_ir3ggij wrote

Reply to TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

Yeah I made a random ‘your mom’ joke freshman year of highschool to a classmate, having no idea his mom had died the year before. He stabbed me in the hand with a mechanical pencil and I still have a scar. Kind of a reminder to keep that shit in my head unless I know somebody well enough lol

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Spiersy_ t1_ir346nu wrote

Reply to comment by JamesSolR in TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

I'm not against an apology at all. You can be sorry that something you did unintentionally hurt someone, without necessarily being sorry for what you did.

I am just against the sentiment in the comments that is telling OP that they must change who they are as a person. Some people out here expecting OP to walk on egg shells 24/7 because someone might take offence to something you say. That's not how I want to live.

Personally, I would just apologise for any unintended offence, and keep on moving. As long as there was no malicious intent it shouldn't need more than a conversation to get friends back on the same page.

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IrisKalla t1_ir24ujx wrote

Reply to TIFU By Calling My Friend's Mom A Hoe by Quinn_eth

I mean, did you say sorry?

Jokes are great, but everyone fumbles at one point or another. Also, humour changes dramatically in online groups (and over time). Some might be cool with "your mom" stuff, some, less so.

The ability to realize you hurt her feelings and just say sorry for that is KEY to maintaining good relationships.

It's also ok to realize not all friendships are what we think they are, or work as well as we might hope. Humour doesn't match as well as we thought, or values are different, etc. That's just being human. Be the best you you can and don't worry too much.

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